[smartiesparty]

because i have depression and hide it from people, i always pretend i did things i didn't do. i say i left my house when i didn't. i say i did exciting things when i didn't, just so people don't give me that pitiful look
am i the only one ?

[(JD)]

It's disappointing that you feel the need to hide your true feelings... how can others support you and know how poorly you are feeling if you hide it from them? They can't read your mind.

It's ok to tell the truth. Say you just aren't feeling up to going out or doing anything...then let them talk you into going with them even if you don't feel like it... because that's the way to overcome... a few minutes at a time of relief from the darkness... the light becomes stronger.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by (JD)

It's disappointing that you feel the need to hide your true feelings... how can others support you and know how poorly you are feeling if you hide it from them? They can't read your mind.

It's ok to tell the truth. Say you just aren't feeling up to going out or doing anything...then let them talk you into going with them even if you don't feel like it... because that's the way to overcome... a few minutes at a time of relief from the darkness... the light becomes stronger.

[avlady]

you don't really have to do something you don't want to do, but i actually did lie myself about things i didn't want to do, only to wonder what am i missing here? i may have enjoyed myself and made some good friends. try to get out more and you'll find out what you've been missing. i myself am agoraphobic, and i still do lie so i can see why you do lie. every time i get the chance to now i try not to lie anymore and enjoy myself while i'm out. you need to learn how to not be anxious about going out.good luck

[smartiesparty]

i'm ashamed i'm not living the life of young people.

[Skeezyks]

Yes...

[llleeelllaaannneee]

I don't say I did things I didn't do I just emphasize what I've done and let people assume it's more than it is. For example, if I see someone and I went to the store once last week and talked to a friend once last month I'll be sure to mention something about my trip to the store and having talked to a friend. I've learned that most people will assume I do both all the time.

I have no problem doing this with people I've just met but it's a habit I need to break. I think what (JD) said is really true.

I totally relate to your post. Thinking of you *hugs*

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[10yrsgone]

I find myself doing this as well. I don't know how many times I've told someone I'm (physically) "sick" to get out of plans because I'm feeling anxious or afraid.

It has definitely affected my relationships with people. Maybe they catch onto the fact I'm lying. But it's not me being malicious! It's because I am not feeling well.

I mean, people are so quick to tell people "stay at home, get better, rest up" when they're physically sick. You would think some would be understanding if you could honestly tell people you just didn't feel like going.

I think some of my friends have caught on to the fact I've done this a few times. I've even lied my way out of working in a toxic job atmosphere. But I'm miserable if I do and miserable if I don't.

(Rant over. I don't know where this is going. But yes smartiesparty this is very relevant to me as well. I don't know how I can explain it but my mind sometimes tells me to do things that other people may consider a letdown).

Yes. Especially when asked a personal question and if I were to be vague they could guess the answer. I tell people I have a headache sometimes to get out of doing stuff.