[Tayosm]

Hello! This is my first time talking about my issue to anyone, as I've always considered myself being oversensitive and silly. But now that it started affecting my life negatively, I had to do something! I'm still young.

So I guess that you would want some information about me. I'm a 20 year old female, I don't have any medical condition. I also don't have any mental issues that I know of, but that's the main purpose of my post. I wanna know what's wrong with me.

I'm EXTREMELY lazy! It sounds like something many people would say, but in my case, it's so horrible that it's actually affecting my life and my relationships. I didn't leave the house in over a month, and the last time I actually left the house, I did it unwillingly. My room is a mess, I take forever to finally take a shower, I never study, I never take care of myself, ...etc. It got to the point where I don't even wanna do the things that I like (hobbies). I also lost many friends because I was too lazy to hang out with them or even TALK them.

I'm an introvert, but that doesn't justify it at all.

I've become overweight, and it affected my self esteem so much. But I can't exercise because of my laziness. I also sleep so much. 8 hours is never enough, and I can continue sleeping whenever I want. I never wake up feeling energized even though I've slept alot. I get tired too easily during the day. Because I sleep so much, I'm always late for my classes which resulted in failing 2 courses because of my high absences.

All of that have led to depression. I feel worthless, I can't accomplish anything. I feel like I'm losing my life. All the precious time that I've wasted ..

PLEASE don't tell me to "just do it" or "stop being lazy", because I would've done that a long time ago if I could. I'm also assuming that you guys are professionals or at least know enough to not say these things. I'm so lazy that I don't wanna even go to a psychiatrist. I want a medication that will actually work. If I can buy them online without a prescription, that would great. Thanks

[possum220]

Most of the people on this site are here to share similar experiences. Sometimes it is great to talk to other who understand. This in itself can be so encouraging.

There could be any number of physical issues that may be affecting your moods. Low Iron for one example. You may get a lot of sleep. But that can be worse than not sleeping. You may not be getting quality sleep. You do need to be checked out by a doctor to rule out the physical causes before zoning in on depression.

This site can give you moral support but we cannot diagnose you and we are not qualified doctors that can point you in the direction of a medication. If you are taking medication it is also wise to have a doctors help.

[Tayosm]

Originally Posted by possum220

Most of the people on this site are here to share similar experiences. Sometimes it is great to talk to other who understand. This in itself can be so encouraging.

There could be any number of physical issues that may be affecting your moods. Low Iron for one example. You may get a lot of sleep. But that can be worse than not sleeping. You may not be getting quality sleep. You do need to be checked out by a doctor to rule out the physical causes before zoning in on depression.

This site can give you moral support but we cannot diagnose you and we are not qualified doctors that can point you in the direction of a medication. If you are taking medication it is also wise to have a doctors help.

Thank you

[-jimi-]

I think it is easy to see laziness where there is none. If you have to mentally whip yourself to do things, something is different about you. I've always been like that to an extent, maybe not when I was really young. I couldn't compare with others so I always thought everyone had this inner struggle about doing the simplest things. I thought I was just weaker than them and gave into laziness easier.

Came out I'm actually spending LOT more energy on "simple things" than the average person. These days I have a diagnosis of Asperger's and ADD and that really explains my "laziness". I don't have a normal start button. There is nothing called "just do" in my world. Doing stuff is a hassle for me. It takes a lot of mental preparation and carrying it out is hard too. That said, I AM highly intelligent!

I'm not saying you have ADD, but me finding that out, I was kind of relieved. I thought ADD was something completely different from what I was experiencing. What I am saying is, I do not believe you are lazy. I think you might use up more energy than others, for what reason I don't know. Actually I don't even BELIEVE in laziness.

[Tayosm]

Originally Posted by -jimi-

I think it is easy to see laziness where there is none. If you have to mentally whip yourself to do things, something is different about you. I've always been like that to an extent, maybe not when I was really young. I couldn't compare with others so I always thought everyone had this inner struggle about doing the simplest things. I thought I was just weaker than them and gave into laziness easier.

Came out I'm actually spending LOT more energy on "simple things" than the average person. These days I have a diagnosis of Asperger's and ADD and that really explains my "laziness". I don't have a normal start button. There is nothing called "just do" in my world. Doing stuff is a hassle for me. It takes a lot of mental preparation and carrying it out is hard too. That said, I AM highly intelligent!

I'm not saying you have ADD, but me finding that out, I was kind of relieved. I thought ADD was something completely different from what I was experiencing. What I am saying is, I do not believe you are lazy. I think you might use up more energy than others, for what reason I don't know. Actually I don't even BELIEVE in laziness.

Thank you! So, how did you deal with it after figuring that out?

[-jimi-]

I had to really analyze my behavior. Everyone has their own way of thinking, that can be improved a little.

One of my issues was I thought doing a little was the same as doing nothing. In my world, doing it all was the only thing that counted as "doing" for me. I had to rethink and actually learn that any doing was doing. It took me ages understanding this fully. Also, for some time I was prescribed Ritalin that helped me getting started.