[Eleny]

I have an outgoing personality and alot of energy, however underneath it all I'm very insecure.

Lately I've started to feel like my personality annoys some people as I can be loud, and in work I've been labelled as a bit of a clown which at first was funny but now has become very hurtful as people make comments about me being "crazy" or "loud", because I can be that way after a few drinks. But it makes me feel like an idiot and I'm sick of people making those comments. Its like no one respects me.

I'm now beginning to worry so much about what people think about me and it's so upsetting. I always thought my energy and funniness was a good thing but the older I get the more I think I'm just an annoyance to people or a joke.

I wish I could just like myself enough not to care what anyone thought. Or maybe the problem is me and I need to change, but I can't change who I am.

I just wondered if anyone has any advice at all?

Originally Posted by Eleny

I have an outgoing personality and alot of energy, however underneath it all I'm very insecure.

Lately I've started to feel like my personality annoys some people as I can be loud, and in work I've been labelled as a bit of a clown which at first was funny but now has become very hurtful as people make comments about me being "crazy" or "loud", because I can be that way after a few drinks. But it makes me feel like an idiot and I'm sick of people making those comments. Its like no one respects me.

I'm now beginning to worry so much about what people think about me and it's so upsetting. I always thought my energy and funniness was a good thing but the older I get the more I think I'm just an annoyance to people or a joke.

I wish I could just like myself enough not to care what anyone thought. Or maybe the problem is me and I need to change, but I can't change who I am.

I just wondered if anyone has any advice at all?

Hi, I can get what you are saying, over compensating traits to hide another like you said, insecurity.

Have you considered talk therapy? It's also a way to figure out what makes you insecure and help you to get past it.

Even setting small goals for improvement is a confidence builder.

Even I would love to express my true self which has been hidden for a really long time, up till a year ago where we expressed a desire to come out and be known. So we are working on being our true selves in therapy (yes there is quite a few of us, but we are trying).

Everything that I've expressed to you is what I've been doing, and I feel great!

It's always good to be working on yourself, good luck!

[avlady]

yes we need to work on number one sometimes. i don't know you but you sound like someone who is sincerly concerned about your personality and we all could use some tweaking sometimes. good luck