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I'm really scared my boyfriend will kill himself. He has OCD and depression and says he can't stand living anymore. We've been together for 1 year and have a healthy relationship. He has been feeling this way about his life throughout most of our relationship, but the suicidal thoughts come and go (usually when he is confronted with a stressful situation). I'm really desperate because I love him and I know he loves me, we're best friends and I can't stand seeing him suffer like that, he is a terrific and intelligent person. He has been doing therapy for a few months and it has helped him a lot. About 5 days ago he told me he didn't have suicidal thought anymore, he was loving and caring to me. But yesterday he had a assignment to do for uni and he couldn't do it, he said he is so fed up and the only reason he won't kill himself is because of me. He has been very cold and distant. I don't know what to do, I'm so scared...
Last edited by Anonymous59786; Mar 11, 2016 at 02:00 PM. Reason: added trigger icon |
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I am sorry your boyfriend is struggling so much. That is such a worry for you but it's good that he is gettnig help and that he has gained from that help. Your boyfriend has to slowly learn that when he has this overwhelming anxiety and it's connected to a challenge, which in this case is an assignment for the uni, he can acknowledge the fear and give himself permission to make the effort anyway and see how it comes out. The more he learns he can get past this anxiety and tackle challenges, the more he will make gains on dealing with that anxiety.
I struggle with PTSD, and I have had to deal with a lot of anticipation anxiety so I know it's a big challenge. I have made a lot of gains on it, and I was at one point suicidal and with that challenge, it very important to realize that while that desire may come up, it also goes away. Your boyfriend has to learn to be very patient and just keep on working at it and he will find that he keeps gaining on it. ![]() |
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You need to tell your boyfriend to call his therapist. You said that your boyfriend has been doing therapy for a few months and it has helped him a lot. Has your boyfriend stopped doing therapy? If not, then your boyfriend is well aware that he's catastrophizing. If so, then he needs to return to therapy as soon as possible. Also, it's essential that he do his "homework" (cognitive restructuring). I wish you and your boyfriend the best. |
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can you takae him to the hospital?
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There is something else to look out for....when someone has been suicidal and all of a sudden they seem at peace, happy (or giving things away) that is a danger sign. Only being in therapy for a few months; I doubt he was feeling "normal" and not suicidal. i would think in-treatment in a hospital would be a good idea; but that would be up to his therapist.
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