[Aviza]

I do plan to move out, but it will have to be to a subsidized unit. No in between unit, must be subsidized. So the apartment that's currently available is unaffordable to me.

600 a month though with working technically I can afford it, it would stress me out too much to pay it and wait for the subsidy that has no guarantee of coming.

I'm still going to see it but location wise and financial wise not a good option. I just have to keep my options open because of my mom threatening to kick me out yet telling me not to go.

[WishfulThinker66]

Aviza, I am not sure about the history you have with your mom. I assume you are an adult which I take it would be the reason she finds your presence difficult. You mention you have a limited income with which to support yourself. Would it be more suitable to stay but on terms with your mother. I myself allowed my adult children to live at home while they got on their feet but I did so with the expectation that they contribute to the household. I charged room and board and expected them to do a share of the household chores and upkeep. In return they had a place to stay at a low rent, some earned privacy, and a sense of independence.

You might wish to consider having such an arrangement with your mother. Sit down and have an honest and serious conversation about roles, expectations, and terms of understanding (boundaries, barriers, etc). Even if you do not contribute financially to your living arrangement this is a discussion you ought to have.

Anyway, my point is that staying with mom need not be so negative I think as long as you contribute and as long as you two respect the 'rules'. This need only be temporary while you save your remaining income for eventually moving out.

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree about keeping all the options open.

[Aviza]

I pay mom 300 a month rent and am responsible to keep the upper level clean. I get no privacy, have no respect, yes I am an adult 44 years old. I miss having my own space, but being completely on my own stresses me out. I'm trying to figure out how to live independently.

[*Laurie*]

I facilitate a NAMI group in a subsidized housing community and it's a terrific situation. Great sense of community, safety, clean with nice landscaping. Perhaps they're not all like the one I know of, but I don't think the words "subsidized housing" need to be a turn-off.

[divine1966]

Subsidized housing apartment complexes in my area are actually same or better looking than regular apartments. No one even knows they are subsidized unless someone who lives there tells you

You’ve been talking about it for a long time and I really don’t understand why it’s not happening. Are you in line waiting for subsidized housing? If not why not? You’d probably pay less rent than you are paying your mom

[Aviza]

I'm on waitlists abd applying to others. I cancelled one i was close to getting. Thought a better one was available so had to reapply for that one which isn't nicer than apartments I've lived in but some are. Those are super hard to get into. Wait is about a year for some or less for others. I'm on several lists.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Aviza

I'm on waitlists abd applying to others. I cancelled one i was close to getting. Thought a better one was available so had to reapply for that one which isn't nicer than apartments I've lived in but some are. Those are super hard to get into. Wait is about a year for some or less for others. I'm on several lists.

You shouldn’t cancel it, you should just take it