[MickeyCheeky]

I try to be kind and supportive all the time... but often, I feel like it's just not enough. I rarely ever give advice, because I really don't know what advice to give (I'm very ignorant, in general, so I can't really talk about most subjects) and the only thing I can say most of the time is something like "I'm sorry" or "I know how you feel", and such. Nobody has ever told me this, but I'm feeling like I'm not really helping anybody

[Booh]

“What it means to be authentic:
- to be more concerned with truth than opinions
- to be sincere and not pretend
- to be free from hypocrisy: "walk your talk"
- to know who you are and to be that person
- to not fear others seeing your vulnerabilities
- being confident to walk away from situations where you can't be yourself
- being awake to your own feelings
- being free from others' opinions of you
- accepting and loving yourself”
― Sue Fitzmaurice

Hello, MickeyCheeky. Although I have not been here long, your posts show your authenticity. Rejoice.

[Fuzzybear]

[MickeyCheeky]

Originally Posted by Booh

Hello, MickeyCheeky. Although I have not been here long, your posts show your authenticity. Rejoice.

Thank you so much for your kind words although... I don't really see myself in ALL the entries of the list you posted :/ (I don't really love myself, for example..). So... yeah.

But thanks

[mindwrench]

I often feel the same way, and wonder if I should just leave a thread alone or say something. But when I think of the times I make a post, and wait for somebody to reply or comment on it, I know how much it means to have feedback and know somebody cared enough to read it. I hope you keep posting, as I like to see your thoughts on things. I realize for me personally, I receive more benefit from these forums than I contribute back or at least it feels that way. I really do think that one reply or comment can be the difference for people sometimes.

[Yours_Truly]

I know how you feel Mickey Cheeky because I feel the same way. I find I give a lot of hugs.

[Booh]

Hello again, Mickey Cheeky. It saddens me to see you state you do not love yourself. These articles may be beneficial:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/arti...re-be-yourself
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...elf-acceptance

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you, guys It's nice to see how many people care for what I write here.

The doubt is persistent though. Am I really that helpful, after all? Hugs might be nice, but it's advices people really want, or need. And I'm not really in the position to give advices

I'll still keep posting though I mean... at least I'm not hurting anyone by doing so, right? (I hope..)

[12AM]

I remember you said you are extremely bored, you said you couldn't find any activity that you like or enjoy doing. And then I saw your reply to many members and was thinking, wow that's really good. You aren't just doing nothing due to boredom, instead you TRY to help people. And for someone like me, it is the effort, the willingness to help that counts. Tbh I think that some of your posts have advice in them. Even if some other posts don't, again, sometimes a single hug is more than enough

[SvanThor]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I try to be kind and supportive all the time... but often, I feel like it's just not enough. I rarely ever give advice, because I really don't know what advice to give (I'm very ignorant, in general, so I can't really talk about most subjects) and the only thing I can say most of the time is something like "I'm sorry" or "I know how you feel", and such. Nobody has ever told me this, but I'm feeling like I'm not really helping anybody

I want to let you know that you're wrong. Simply by trying to be kind and understanding to people, you are helping. Please know that. Many people don't even go out of their way to do that.

[Unrigged64072835]

You're not hurting anyone with hugs and stuff, unless they specifically state they don't want it. You're being very supportive, and that is cool.

[magicalprince]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I try to be kind and supportive all the time... but often, I feel like it's just not enough. I rarely ever give advice, because I really don't know what advice to give (I'm very ignorant, in general, so I can't really talk about most subjects) and the only thing I can say most of the time is something like "I'm sorry" or "I know how you feel", and such. Nobody has ever told me this, but I'm feeling like I'm not really helping anybody

You told me I mattered and that helped me. I remembered both your username and avatar and how it felt to read your post and I was really appreciative. So idk but thank you for that.

[eskielover]

I felt that way most of my life. The strange thing is that it changed around the age of 54. Before that my mind was so busy trying to fight for MYSELF but I didn't have the words to express helpful thoughts.

As soon as I left all the dysfunctional life I was in, it's like my mind was freed & opened up to better interface with others & learned to express my thoughts better to others. Interesting how getting that out of environment changed my life to be able to connect with others

There is hope for change in the future

[MickeyCheeky]

I want to thank you all for your word of encouragment, especially magicalprince - maybe I'm not so useless after all
I'll still give support and try to give some advice if I can. Thank you again

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I try to be kind and supportive all the time... but often, I feel like it's just not enough. I rarely ever give advice, because I really don't know what advice to give (I'm very ignorant, in general, so I can't really talk about most subjects) and the only thing I can say most of the time is something like "I'm sorry" or "I know how you feel", and such. Nobody has ever told me this, but I'm feeling like I'm not really helping anybody

Hey its okay I feel like this all the time. U helped me with the hugs

I feel that way on here often, and sometimes irl too.

It correlates with my own mental state I've found - sometimes I'm very hard on myself.

From my own experience I have been helped immensely just from simple validation from others, you don't need to give advice as such IMO, just reading and acknowledging can be incredibly supportive.