Small lies lead to Big lies

https://www.yahoo.com/news/telling-s...190848631.html

This study is interesting in that what was learned about how the amygdala in the brain develops a calm when an individual practices lying more and more.
In other words the individual is comfortable with lying, even big lies.

In my time here at PC I have come across countless posts where individuals struggle with how someone abused them in some way, even a family member and yet when they make it a point to "tell", to their horror the abuser not only denies, but does so with a calm and confidence.

One of the things I have noticed is how individuals who develop the ability to "lie" and remain calm, even when that individual is questioned over and over again, that people tend to see that as a strength, worthy of respect and that the individual who is lying is too calm to be guilty of lying.

The article near the end talks about how lying, if it benefits a "group" of individuals, has more power in that more individuals are more likely to engage in lying in groups, because there is a gain involved. The lie becomes more emboldened when a group is involved, and with that because so many are willing to go along with a lie? Certainly it is the victim that must be lying because the victim is the one that looks or acts more unstable.

Perhaps, some day, the research being done on the human brain will be able to show that the amygdala is more apt to show that when it is showing a lot of stress, that is the person who is actually telling THE TRUTH.

People who are victims tend to be victimized over and over again. The victim often wonders "how can that person live with themselves?". Well, sadly, the abuser can because the abuser has developed that calm in their amygdala where they can lie and cheat and yes even abuse and without suffering the way a victim does. Sadly, the victim often "self blames" for this in that they struggle SO MUCH to be stronger and "stand up to" an abuser.