Recently I am in this pattern where I want to avoid everyone.
- At work I just want to hide in my office all day. Leaving it means I have to talk to someone and that never ends well.
- at home, I don't want to talk to my neighbors. I find them all so trite and annoying.
- Even on message boards I had to give up on long term boards, basically because I am tired of the people on the boards. I feel lately like they are all fools. I mean I know that sounds bad but they are brining me down. They have these dramas and don't seem to appreciate anything I say. When I join a message board more often than not there is a bully who is rude and attacks me and others and the moderators always protect them. Just so sick of it.

One the one hand... I feel like it is right for me to stay away from these people as all of them seem to bother me.. but on the other it seems weird for me not to want to be around anyone. Where do you meet good people?

[fishin fool]

The majority of the people on this site are great people.
Kind and understanding, I hope you will find a family here.

[Misssy2]

Emily..I keep getting kicked off message boards for having different opinions than the moderators. I am also experiencing the same feelings as you screw everyone...and I avoid everyone at all costs...I think it is the holiday blues for me.

I have been feeling it more and more lately. I just find people so annoying. Today it snowed where I am. I don't know why but my neighbors always run out to clear their cars off like it is a contest to get it done first. When they do that they also talk to each other about STUPIDITY. Nothing that matters... just stupidity. Like the weather. Then we move for the plow and they are so impatient.

I was sitting in my car waiting for the plow and this total stranger directs me to put my window down. (you see, i just want to sit in my car alone and I can't even get that) I put the window down and he bruskly asks me if I know who is in the visitor's spot. I said no... and he goes away, but man, that bothered me.

First, who the FREAK made you the god of the plow situation. Even if I knew who was in the visitor spot I wouldn't tell you. Second, don't f***ing demand I put my window down and interrogate me like you are a freaking cop.

It just bothered me and all I did today for the whole day was to move my car for the plow.

Why can't people just freaking leave me alone? STOP TALKING TO ME.

[winter4me]

Did something happen to trigger your general irritation, or is this "normal" for you?
Do you have someone to talk to? Although you say you want to be left alone, you are also looking for something from people that you need and are not getting.
Maybe some hard physical activity might work off some of the agitation---don't know, it works for me at times.
Remember too, although it may seem rude to someone, you don't have to roll down your window, or go out and talk with others.
Ok, I will shut up now....

Originally Posted by winter4me

Did something happen to trigger your general irritation, or is this "normal" for you?.

No I just feel like I am all out of patience and tolerance. Like every last drop has been drained out of me by stupid ignorant people and everything annoys me lately.

I do feel like there is something that I need that I am not getting... people that think like me, act like me, and are generally not stupid bossy or insensitive. I yearn for people to talk about something that means something, not just "how are u" or "wow the weather out there is so nice". I need people to think before they act, to have an ounce of humility or manners.

I know I didn't have to roll down the window but in a way I did because I know darn will Mr. Pissy pants there would have just sat there knocking never once conceiving of the idea that I didn't have to roll down the window at his command. Bossy people can be foolish that way. So part of the irritation was that I didn't have to roll that window down but I did because that would have been an even bigger bother not to. Plus, I live with him (same complex) so though he could be as bossy as could be.. you bet your bottom dollar had I not complied the gossips would have heard about it.

Agitation directed at people other than you winter.

[winter4me]

If you are this negative about others...well, I don't see you finding what you want.
You may be misinterpreting other's behaviors in light of your own emotional/mental state. To find others, you often start with chit chat, to feel each other out, and then move into more intimate/thoughtful discussion. I feel like you are automatically judging others as unworthy.
There is no way in the world someone can know you think it's "bossy" to knock on a window to make a request, or that you think it's "stupid" to chat about the weather.
I have met some very good people in casual, initially unimpressive exchanges.

[CloserToTheMid]

I do it on purpose for self-preservation. If I getting manicky, I want to be very social, but that is a bad idea for me, so I force myself to withdraw until I'm better. My mantra is When in doubt, don't go out!

I wish I had better advice for you but all I can say is that in the same way....

[MickeyCheeky]

Maybe this is just the way you feel.. you don't like those people and you're looking for someone else in your life?

[LifeInProgress]

I have times when the last thing I want is to be around people. Othertimes I feel lonely and want people.

Sorry, I meant say I'M the same way...phone typo.

Originally Posted by winter4me

I feel like you are automatically judging others as unworthy.

Well that presents a very partisan view of what I am saying but I am finding everyone annoying lately. Truth is.. I think it is objectively bossy for someone with no authority to walk up to you, demand you roll down your window, and ask about something that lets face it, I am unlikely to know. Not to mention the way it WAS done. Not, "hi how are you doing?" I was hoping you could tell me something. Just banging on my window and telling me to put it down like was a cop but he isn't. And gruffly saying do you know who is in the spot? What I wanted to say was how the F*** would I know that. Next are you going to ask me the secret to life? Mind ur own F*** business and finish shoveling.

People need to think, they need to use manners and I am just sick of them not doing so.

Its not judgmental to say the truth.

[eyesclosed]

I'm not sure but if I'm one the people that annoy you could you please tell me what I do so I don't do it again.

Originally Posted by eyesclosed

I'm not sure but if I'm one the people that annoy you could you please tell me what I do so I don't do it again.

You should know already.

[eyesclosed]

Really I am I really don't know what I do so please tell me so I don't do it again.

[Shazerac]

Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton

You should know already.

I don't understand this. People aren't mind readers. Perhaps if you stared clearly what it is that annoyed you it would help both you and the other person.

This kind of irritability at everything strikes me as a precursor to hypo/mania.

This isn't all all worthy of youre ire. This guy did nothing wrong - he certainly didn't do anything many of us wouldn't do. Did you have some sort of problem earlier that got you all riled up? I think you are being incredibly unfair.