I know a lot of you know me and I've actually been here since March. I had to leave as myself and hubby went through a bad time, he had a mini breakdown because of everything I put him through with depression etc. I did try to take my own life twice which didn't help. He reached the end of his tether and just blew. He came on here one night and called me everything apparently from a ***** to a *****. I don't know who he spoke to apart from 3 people. I just get the impression that a few people who I used to talk to are avoiding me and wonder if this is why? I don't know what he said, I do know that he thought I was indulging in something I wasn't with a rather perverted cop from nevada who was thrown off this site because of what he was suggesting. If you want to believe Tony then please be up front and just dont ignore me. I cant bear it, it triggers me.
Tony is sorry for what he did, I need to know what was actually said, I don't know what people may be thinking.

upset, Jinny

[(JD)]

((((jinnyann))))

I'm sorry for all your recent troubles. There's nothing blocking you for me, and I'm open to PMs if you need to.

This is one of the good things about PC, more understanding than at other sites. Things like this do happen IRL.

TC

Thankyou Sky but I need to know what was said, I'm getting panicky now. I'm beginning to wonder if I can even forgive this behaviour. He hurt at least 2 of my friends I know about. I just need to know, my son was watching him write this stuff.

jinny

[ECHOES]

I read them but I honestly do not recall the details.

I do remember that everyone here defended and supported you.

Perhaps others coincidentally went in other directions while you were away. That happens, people come and go and friendships grow and sometimes fade. It's sad and it's hard when that happens.

Thankyou Echoes. I am so upset about this. I know I should let it go now.

Jin

[snowflake_48888]

I am sorry you are going thru so much Jinny....I did not read what was posted and I wasn't involved with anything in chat that happened. I wish I could help you more...
Love ya
Snowy

love you too baby. we must catch up, I'm just so preoccupied. I keep cleaning and writing and dan't find time to chat yet. Have to do it late when tony is working. I know that sounds deceiptful but he doesn't like me going in chat. I wont be controlled.

jinny

[biiv]

jinny i didnt even know your husband had been on the site. i may be being a bit distant right now but thats just the place im in and not about you in the slightest. im having a hard time thinking straight is all.
so sorry your husband did this and that you are still feeling the repercussions. i guess this is why i havent been seeing you in chat recently.
(((((((((((((((((kerry)))))))))))))))))))))))
big hugs for you
biiv

ty biiv, love to you, I am not saying anyone is upsetting me, I just need to know what was said really, I have a bee in my bonnet about it. I feel a bit violated, maybe that's a strong word, but he came in here where I'm safe and said things I think, that weren't true. He told me when I re joined I wouldn't be very popular.

Jin

kerry sweetheart........you need to let this go........you and your husband have made your ammends and the people that know and love you here will never believe negative things said about you.......let it go honey....the past is the past and the future is bright

yes you're right butterfly. I will let it go. I thank everyone who defended me that night from the bottom of my heart. Those who know me know I am no *****, slag or whatever else he called me.

thankyou

kerry xooxoxoxoxxo

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Kerry}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Sweety, I only heard a couple of things but I wasn't witness. The only reason I heard what he had done is because I made it a point to ask why you felt you had to leave. I didn't believe that you would do what I was told your hubby said.

Nothing has changed between you and me. The only reason I don't respond to you more often is because I'm so overwhelmed with what is going on with me now. I do still care very much about you! Only YOU can change that and I don't think you're capable of pushing me away.

(((((((((SEPTEMBERMORN)))))))))))))

I knew my true friends would stick by me. Thankyou, I would never push anyone away. Tony and I have sorted out our differences, I'm not happy about what he did, I feel a bit bullied and controlled, well, I did at the time, but he was at the end of his tether and had a sort of breakdown. He didn't really want me to come back on to pc, but my therapist thought it was good for me, he said I wouldn't be popular, but my feelings were - if people are my friends, they will know the truth from the lies, and I have had nothing but support from most people. I love you all. Thankyou for having me back everyone. Please dont think badly of Tony for what he did, he is a good man and he loves me. He has been so attentive and affectionate since the whole thing blew up back then. We have been through so much, I believe in working on a marriage, it is too easy to give up these days. We are good together right now.

love, Jinny xoxoxoxoxo

Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

[DocClyde]

(((jinny)))

<font color="#000088">You're a really good friend to me, and I don't tend to believe stories that I hear from people that come on here and try to spread about my friends that I know, and trust! Since I didn't know Tony, why would I believe his accusations? I wouldn't, that's the answer! You're my friend, I believe you, not him! So anyone that is really your true friend, would have just brushed those accusations right off, and let it go! That's exactly what I did, I was a bit ticked off that he would say such things about a good friend!
It did NOT change our friendship in any way!((((((((((Jinnyann))))))))))
Not in my eye's it didn't!
You're a great friend,I'm just really glad to have you back! Just as popular as before! HA!

Best wishes with working out your differences, I really hope things work out for the 2 of you!

You know I will always be here for you, PM me, E-mail me, whatever,I'm here for you!</font>

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((((((((( kerry & tony ))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I wasn't privy to all that was said during that difficult time. But for me, it doesn't really matter for I know that you and your family were going through a most difficult time. Like I've told you before, everyone has a breaking point and what you were going through was not only difficult for you, it affected everyone you love and who love you too.

When we become upset and enraged, especially when we are at witt's end of how to handle the difficult situations, we sometimes lash out. In many ways, it's a scream for help.

I was so happy to hear that you and Tony were working through your issues and trying hard to make your marriage work. I know you love each other and it shows that you are still together and taking things one day at a time.

I'll always hold you close to my heart. You are a dear soul and I've enjoyed our times together in chat, learning about each other, dealing with the difficult issues and just plain having a laugh now and again.

I wish you and Tony all the best....and your children too!


sabby

(((((((((((((((justice)))))))))))))))))

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thankyou so much, your words are wise and kind

jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxo