[MattyH97]

Hi, everyone. I've been experiencing a strange problem for a few years now, and I'm too embarrassed to discuss this with anyone I know. So, I'm an introvert. Never really had any friends my age as a kid, especially not kids of the same gender. (I'm a guy.) Any friends I had were family and one girl who was my pen pal. A few years ago, this girl started college and slowly she drifted away from me. I have constant jealousy of her friends to this day. I try to contact her, but she rarely answers me. So, I started college myself last year, and met quite a few people I've liked. A bit too much maybe. I have weird social anxiety around these people and never know what to say. However this has improved a bit, I still cringe at everything I say though. The type of people I "latch" onto are usually guys I admire a bit obsessively and always want them to talk to me. I just find them to be "cool". Female friends are similar, but they don't occupy my mind as much because I want to be included in a male kind of friendship, which I imagine I don't fully understand. I'm currently obsessed with wanting interaction with any of them. A few acted like they liked me, but now they won't contact me, even when they said they would. I try to myself, not often, but I never get an answer. I just hate this feeling of being unwanted. My mind strains and obsessively repeats these thoughts. What's wrong with me? (Sorry for the wall of text.)

[avlady]

College learning is also about learning to get along with people too. I remember when i was in college it was easier for me than others because i hung around with my sister who went with me too. After she graduated i had a hard time fitting in although because her friends were mine too and they were all a year ahead of me. In the long run i was able to make some new friends just by sitting with different people and learning about the courses too. Unfortunately i was hit by a van crossing the street and never finished my last year but fortunately am going back for 3 classes this Fall. wish me luck!!!

[MattyH97]

Originally Posted by avlady

College learning is also about learning to get along with people too. I remember when i was in college it was easier for me than others because i hung around with my sister who went with me too. After she graduated i had a hard time fitting in although because her friends were mine too and they were all a year ahead of me. In the long run i was able to make some new friends just by sitting with different people and learning about the courses too. Unfortunately i was hit by a van crossing the street and never finished my last year but fortunately am going back for 3 classes this Fall. wish me luck!!!

I understand, but the thing isn't that I don't get along with people, because I do. It's just that I get obsessive over people that interact with me. I think I hide it pretty well, but it must show sometimes. I almost feel like a little kid when it comes to people. And sorry to hear about what happened to you. Good luck with classes!

[MattyH97]

Anyone have any advice? :/