I've mostly been a "stone".
I just wonder how does flow feel like... To me it seems like a relief... but also a risk?
I am working hard on doing more rather than thinking most of the time.
I want to do so many things - create music, play games, socialize, prepare well for a career which I'm uncertain of (although I know I LOVE Math).
I imagine flow as actively going places daily, passing bus time with a video game or book, just using my time on DOING on every opportunity. But my problem is lack of flow. Except as I write this, I have no flow.
Sometimes when I sit in front of the computer, I can end up feeling sad or feel a burden because of my current social status of only having a selected few friends.

[eskielover]

I see 2 concepts of going with the flow:
1 would be following the crowd & the people around you. That wouldn't fit me because I don't think like others & I don't have the values others have so that wouldn't work.

Other concept is to just not worry about things that happen, don't get upset about it, just let it happen & deal with things as they hit our lives & make the best oh it. I don't do good at that either because I like to have some control over the flow around me but after ALL MY ATTEMPTS at controlling, I will then give in & make the best of it that I can.

For me personally just "going with the flow"feels too out of control.

[SeaweedKelp]

Going with the flow will make you end up having relationship with people you don't want. Having the spouse you don't truly want and have bad influence with friends.

I'm a happy go with the flow kind of person. I wasn't always that way, but it's what I've become. To mean it means I'm less attached to a particular outcome in any situation. I just let things play out how they will. It's awesome because I'm not so stressed out all the time. Sure sometimes things blow up in my face, but I always learn something. Actually I would say go with the flow is amazing. The world is your oyster!

[OblivionIsAtHand]

I usually equate it with passivity and conformity, but I guess it could also mean embracing chaos. There would be no need to 'go with the flow' if you're 100% sure of the outcome of a situation. For me, it's usually when I approach a situation blindly because there's some uncertainty as to the outcome. Ironically, as much mental calculation as I do it doesn't seem to jibe with reality quite enough and I end up inadvertently 'feeling things out' (opt instead for organic emotions and intuition) or thinking on my feet as opposed to tightly calculated actions. The results are varied. Some of the more positive moments could very well be blissful ignorance; I wouldn't know.

I'd venture to say that you already 'go with the flow' since none of us can achieve complete control without chaotic elements coming into play. And you've adjusted accordingly.

But what does it feel like specifically? Assuming our concepts of 'going with the flow' are the same, I can only speak for myself: it's as anxiety-inducing as it is contentment-inducing because I view it as pure feeling. That will mostly lead to irrational decisions if you're not adept at reading your intuition. Many people who had children just went with the flow, after all. It net them the outcome of unnecessary, added responsibility.