[MickeyCheeky]

Anyone else feels guilty for being loved? My parents always say they're proud of me, but I don't see why they should be. And to think that so many others didn't have loving parents when they were kids.. it makes me feel spoiled.

I feel guilty for being loved.. by my parents.. or even by my friends here at PC.. I feel like they should be giving that love to somebody else, not me. I'm not worth it..

I know it's weird to feel like this, but that's how I feel..

[markmcc21]

Your feelings are valid. I always hate it when people try to invalidate my feelings. "You shouldn't feel this or that way." But I wish you didn't feel that way. You deserve to be loved. Every person deserves to be loved. If someone loves you, let them!

[Unrigged64072835]

You do deserve love, just by being alive.

Fharraige is right. hugs to you, MickeyCheeky. You are a calming presence and benevolent soul.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I won't invalidate your feelings but in my personal opinion you deserve to be loved simply because you're alive and because you are worthy of love. You are articulate, intelligent, caring and compassionate and your posts are really appreciated here.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you all. You're not the only ones to tell me this.. I guess my self-esteem is just that low that I don't see any reason why someone should care about me..

I have never seen you be anything but sweet and loving to everyone at PC--it is hard not to want to love you back. There are unfortunate exceptions but most parents love their children. They steal our hearts from the moment they were born when they look into our eyes. I wonder if some of your guilt is because you have gotten to know so many at PC who were not loved the way they should have been as children. Perhaps you are an empath. When I googled for the definition it read:

Empaths are highly sensitive. Empaths are naturally giving, spiritually open, and good listeners. If you want heart, empaths have got it. Through thick and thin, they're there for you, world-class nurturers. But they can easily have their feelings hurt.

Perhaps no one has "hurt" your feelings in a classic way but when you absorb all the pain going on at PC maybe you have turned some of it inward by feeling guilty that you are loved in a way others aren't? I really don't know what is causing your guilt. Just guessing but as others said I don't want to invalidate your feelings--it is the way you feel so I am glad that you are venting it here. It is good to examine our feelings otherwise sometimes we can end up acting on them in destructive ways. When we understand our nature, we can learn ways to cope with who we are......

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you, Hoping What you say might be an option. I'm not sure, though, I feel happy when I'm able to help someone here at PC. Perhaps there are several reasons, I'm not sure.

Thank you, though, for sharing your opinion

MickeyCheeky it can be really hard to receive love, don't feel bad for how you feel.

If you receive love you are giving a gift to the person who cares about you, it's not a selfish thing to do, it's actually a kind of gift back to the person. Maybe if you think of it that way it may help you accept the love that is meant for you.

[BlueEyedMama]

Here I find myself wanting to give you a big ol hug through the computer screen again. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling unworthy of the love in your life. You, my friend, have one of the biggest hearts I have seen and that heart deserves to be bursting with love.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you both for the kind and wise words

[lotusblossom19]

Yes, I often feel the same way. I do think you are worthy of love, though. Can't see at all why you wouldn't be deserving of it. You show care towards others and deserve to be shown care in return.

[subtle lights]

I feel the same way too sometimes. It's hard to say why, where it's coming from. But it's not your fault you are feeling this way.
And I do believe it's possible to "absorb" in a way negative feelings from your environment or even this site, without being conscious of it..
Regardless, your feelings are valid and there is a lot of paon in them...
Just hope you'll be able to see yourself as worthy of love, because you really are

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you guys I'm sorry you feel the same way too
Hope we will be able to get through this..

[*Laurie*]

Of course you do, MickeyCheeky!!

What about this....

Nobody is bending my arm here. I CHOOSE to love you just exactly the way you are.

So you can't feel guilty about what someone else wants to feel, can you? That's kind of not your call.

Hugs and hugs and stuff...

SM

[Bookworm257]

What you are experiencing could be related to depression, which is what I used to have (pretty severely). When I was depressed, I had similar guilty feelings where I felt I didn't deserve to enjoy life.