[Raynaadi]

Tonight between 7 and 9pm at my boyfriend's apartment, someone busted my passenger side window. All they took was my crochet bag. And completely shattered my window.

I can't replace it.

I don't have full coverage on my insurance.

I'm just screwed and now my car is completely insecure.

I'm SO MAD!!!!! Yeah down the road I'll get into gratitude and blah blah blah but right now I want to break something. This is freakin rediculous!!!!!!! All because I left my STUPID crochet bag on the front seat as a target!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't leave anything in your car that might appeal a thief. Just don't do it. Not a book, not a bag, nothing. They couldn't take my car cuz I have an auto lock on it. I AM JUST SO INCREDIBLY MAD RIGHT NOW!!!!!! I just can't take anything else happening. I just can't. Nothing more can happen right now, nothing!!!!!!

I need to cry. I wish I wasn't by myself right now.

[Rapunzel]

((((((((( hugs ))))))))))))

I don't know what this world is coming to. Or maybe I do, but I'm in denial. I'm lucky nobody has broken into my car for my knitting bags or library books. I try if I leave anything in my car to either put it in the trunk or display it such that thiefs can easily tell that it's not anything worth breaking in to get. I never leave anything in the car that would be particularly rewarding to them.

I'm sorry you lost your crochet bag. I don't know what you were working on and what you had in there, but it would be devastating to me to lose my knitting bag. So much time invested in my projects, and sometimes I have extra yarn, needles, etc. too. Nothing most thieves would care about, but that stuff means something to us.

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((((((((( Ray Ray ))))))))))))))))))))))))

I don't blame you for being ticked off right now. Any invasion into your personal space as well as damage to your property is inexcusable and grounds for you being very angry and hurt!

I'm so sorry this happened hon. As far as replacing the window, do you have an auto junk yard you can call and find out if they have any windows for your model car? If so, you can probably get them pretty cheaply compared to going to a glass company for one.

When you are done ranting (and you have every right to do so) lets get into the zone hon......ohmmmmmmmmmmmm and breathe....ohmmmmmmmmmmmm and breathe.

Hugssss
sabby

[Crisis]

Really very sorry to hear about this.... I've had it happen twice when I lived in a different place and it made me feel helpless, and angry and then even more angry because I felt helpless. I wish there was more I could say to help. All I can say is I am a heavy believer in karma, and what comes around goes around.

(((hugs)))

[katheryn]

im not sure about where you live Raynaadi, but when my window of my car was broken, we went to car place where they sell bits of broken cars and some friends fitted the window it only cost me at the breakers

sorry they targeted your car

[bebop]

yeah if you can find a junk yard you can find a window really cheap and have someone put it in for you. I had that happen one time but I had a white fur coat they took. errrrrr made me mad too. (((hugs)))

[(JD)]

That is so cruel! It's a terrible feeling to be victimized. But I am glad they didn't get your car.

How much is the window replacement? Can you all buy one at a salvage yard and your BF put it in? You can drive it without the window, and that is a good thing.

No, life isn't "fair." People act mean to others and are disrespectful. Yes, you were human and left something on the seat. I'm glad you were there to be injured too.

I hope you are working through your anger...it's not good to feel such rage. I've always said it's not what we go through but how we go through it. The situations change, but how we protect ourselves, how we respond rather that react is what is important for our own health.

What type of outlet do you have to release this stress chemical built up right now? Do you play any sports or do anything that is active? That would be a good thing to do right now, and then find some time to think about it and then NOT think about it. Give yourself an alloted time limit to just think about this and all that goes with it, and at the end of the time limit tell yourself you aren't going to let it dwell in your mind. You can always give it more scheduled time later on, though.

Be good to yourself. It isn't your fault. It is something that happened. (((hugs))) TC

[chalmette70043]

(((((((Rayna)))))))))

Im so sorry. I remember the feeling i had when it ahppened to me. Get someone to go with you to a salvage yard and replace the window that way. Like everyone above said. Watch you dont cut yourself on the broken glass cleaning it out.

chalmette

[splitimage]

((((Rayna))))

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would feel completely violated and angry. Hopefully you can get the window replaced cheap, like others suggested, but I'm really sorry about the crochet bag. I know how much crocheting means to you and what good would it to to a bunch of theives. Give yourslef some time to be angry because you have every right to be.

--splitimage

[Fuzzybear]

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[Raynaadi]

Thanks so much everyone. I'm calmed down today. Now I'm just sad about it instead of being so angry. Luckily the bag they took just had one thing of yarn that I was making a beanie out of for my friend. The hook must have fallen out; it was laying on the floor of my car. They got the scissors and my threading needle. My boyfriend said he'll help me replace those things. Its mostly the window that I'm so bummed about. My boyfriend has a friend in the glass business, so he may be able to hook us up. Also, my boyfriend's parents kept asking him what he wanted for his birthday and he didn't know. He said last night that he knows now, he's going to ask them to replace the window. I told him thats not a very fun birthday present but he was adament. So one way or another, it'll get replaced. I feel blessed in that sense.

The worst part is that I have to take Grandma around today. We take her car, but I'll still have to tell her about this and its going to break her heart. I also will no longer be willing to park my car at my boyfriend's apartments. They have a break in about once a week there.

I just felt to violated when I opened up my car last night and saw that....it was easy to see how they targeted my car. It wasn't parked next to another car, and it wasn't under a light. They may have seen the crochet bag and thought something valuable was in there. But they didn't even get the finished project, because I got asked to lead the meeting last night and didn't finish it. I was more sad that they took a project I was making for a friend. Somehow I'll get my hands on more of the yarn and start from scratch.

I bulletined on a myspace a reminder not to leave anything in site that might be appealing for a thief. I always brought my bad bag into my boyfriend's place, and the one night I didn't, it was a target.

For the first time last night, I thought about getting drunk. I was just so suddenly overwhelmed. The whole thing with my tooth pain, the recent struggles with my boyfriend, living with MS, trying to get back to work.....I wanted to just get obliviated. Luckily the thought was only a crossing thought and I didn't even come close to getting beer. I called my sponsor when I got home and she let me vent. This is all about life on life's terms. Today I'll write out my anger and then the next step is to start praying for the thief, that they find some peace, find a way to lead an honest and fulfilling life. I have no doubt that most breakins are because of addiction, looking for drug money. So I pray that one day they find a way out, that they realize their life is full of destruction and cruelty, and that they will realize there is another way.

It takes a lot less energy to send up good thoughts for these people then it does to stay angry at them.

Anyway.....thanks for letting me ramble, and I'm so grateful I have PC and all of you.


Rayna

[DocClyde]

(((Raynaadi)))

Sorry to hear that this happened to you...

[Raynaadi]

More replies were posted as I was rambling. It is so wonderful to have a huge host of friends all in one place who care!!!!! Makes me misty. I love you guys!!!

[DocClyde]

You...ramble????? Never

[lenjan]

(((((((Rayna))))))) I echo the junkyard recommendation for the window. It happened to me once too -- while parked outside my pdoc's office, eek! -- and it was an ancient car that I only had liability on. They screwed up the steering column too and I think altogether it was less than $50 at a junkyard to get it back in working order. I actually caught the guy in my car, jacking with the steering column, and chased the car on foot across 3 lanes of traffic when he took off -- not the best idea! I'm glad you're OK, and feeling better today.

Candy

[Raynaadi]

Oh wow Candy, wait, you chased the car? Or the guy?

[Sabrina]

Oh No!! I am sorry this happened!

[Raynaadi]

All is well that ends well right? My boyfriend is getting the window fixed on Monday. His buddy is looking into how much it will cost. And then bf will ask his parents for the money for his birthday, which is also Monday. I was like, well that isn't a fun present, but he's insisting. So.......relief.

[lenjan]

I walked up on the guy sitting in my car, screwing with the steering column. I told him to get the eff outta my car (which the cops later thought was hysterically funny), but he just sat there and kept on. Finally got it to start, and off it went across the street, with me after it. Luckily, it had a bad sensor or something and was prone to dying with regularity, so it died on him and he finally gave up....but not before asking me if I wanted him to call a tow truck!

LOL In retrospect, there was no reason in 2001 that I shouldn't have just let a 1986 car go, but it was all I had!

[silver_queen]

(((((((((((( Rayna )))))))))))))

It's good that your bf is going to get the window for his birthday That is so sweet of him

for now, could you put some plastic, like a plastic bag, over the gap where the window is? I've seen cars driven like that.

And well done on resisting the urge to drink! That's really good going and now you're all the stronger

[Raynaadi]

Yeah when I went to Grandma's today, she had plastic all ready to tape to the window, so its covered now. And then she insisted on replacing the crochet stuff that was taken, and even got me a real crafts bag!!! I feel very blessed to be so well taken care of.

[Perna]

Yeah, I think there are just some times and places that aren't good to park in. I left my car unlocked at home one night and it was probably teens looking for anything to sell for drugs that took like 2-1/2 CD's I had in there (one empty case, the CD was still in the player!) but they didn't mess with anything else and it took me quite awhile before I noticed or could figure out what had happened. My girlfriend once had the handset to her old car phone stolen; the type of phone that was wired into the car (so the handset was totally worthless). It is really senseless what some people will take just to be taking something I guess. Too bad about your window; we had that happen to our RV in Las Vegas on our honeymoon, rock through the passenger side window so they could unlock and get in.