[eskielover]

I definitely have to admit that I love living on my own & being able to take care of things myself without having someone getting in the way & messing up my life.

however......
There are times when it's nice to have someone around. I have been spending so much time trying to get things moved from the garage into the house. That became even more important when it started raining....the water under the garage door & wet furniture. OOps. Trying to quickly move things into the house so they wouldn't get wet. I put rags across the floor to soak up the water, but they held only so much.

I spent a few nights working on the house, only to find the sun coming up before I was done. I know not to push....really I do, but for some reason, I that is what I must have done because I ended up getting very sick. What started out as just a simple cold turned into larangitis......just before I was supposed to sing in the choir at the church I am going to here in KY. Great timing....either that or God's trying to tell me something (stick to flute playing...& leave the voice to others).

The cold turned into breathing problems, but no Dr here to go to, so hope it goes the way of all good colds & doesn't turn into anything more serious. For some reason, this cold drained me of any energy & I have been curled up in my little pool side chair I use for a bed...with my pillow & blanket....sleeping for the last 2 days. Not good when you have to let the doggie out for his potty walk.....a few oopses around the house because of it.

It's been rainy here (thank heavens since the draught has been bad) so my timing on getting sick is really bad. It turns out that the dog food I left here had been taken home by the painter (he thought the rodents might get to it). I was looking all over the house for it & so didn't go out & get dog food while I was feeling good (I use a special brand of dog food that can't be found at the local store). Luckily last night I had some hamburger to cook up....but now I have to go out & get some more. It was always nice to have someone to do the erands when I wasn't feeling good, but being independent has it's price.

Funny how men do think that women need cared for however. I ran into a guy at the store the other day (refurbishing a farm just outside of town). He dropped by Sunday afternoon & was said he could help me with cleaning my pool & since he is building, he could use some of the doors & windows I have in the garage from the remodeling I'm doing in exchange. He was looking at the fixes & things I'm doing to my house & actually fixed the leak under my kitchen sink that got worse while I was gone.

He called after he had left & let me know that it was getting into the very cold season soon & was offered to make sure the pilot light on my furnace was lit......this came up because I had been showing him the changes I was planning on doing to the heating system in the future. I had to laugh a bit....why do men always think that women can't do things like that???? Told him it was on my list of things to do the next day.....I successfully lit the pilot light myself the next day!!!!!!! But I really do find it entertaining that men think women must be totally helpless....cause I'm sure he wouldn't have offered a guy friend to get his pilot light lit.....lol.

Anyway, I do know that it's nice when you aren't feeling good to have help & not have to force yourself out into the cold to go shopping, or sometimes even get enough energy to fix a meal. It's much easier when not feeling good to just lay in bed (or in a chair in my case) & just sleep it away.....hoping to feel a bit better when waking up.

I wouldn't change being alone for the fights any day.....I'll keep my having to take care of myself.....that feeling of independence without the arguments & fights is definitely worth the small hassles that come with it.

Just a few more days of sleep, the baporizer going full blast, some hot tea & I should be back to normal.....good thing I don't have anyone around right now....cause I do get grumpy when I don't feel good. (The painter better not show up until I am feeling better if he knows what's good for him.....lol)
Debbie

[HALLIEBETH87]

isnt KY weather just grrrrrrrrrrrrreat?? lol and it never changes dear

[chalmette70043]

((((((((eskie))))))))))

Sending you some warm thoughts and hugs. I hope you feel better soon.



chalmette

[50guy]

Hey Debbie,

Nice to know what's happening with your move. Let me just put this out there for consideration. That man was trying to be helpful and protective, just like real men do. I know for myself I am a protective man, of all women and children. I don't know why but, I just feel like I have to.

I think independant women are great but, I also believe that some women take it too far and reject help from a man because they had a lazy bum man that never lifted a finger around the house. Or they think a man dosen't believe a woman can do it herself. Whatever the reason some men are just that men. Natural born protectors.

Eric

[eskielover]

Eric,

Thanks for the tip.....I know that some men can honestly just be the protective type. I am in definite need to just take care of myself to the maximum of my capabilities right now. I think it's also my way of showing my husband that he doesn't have to throw money at things & they can be done without hiring someone to do everything like he always did. My husband could hardly do a thing & when I depended on him to get things done....nothing got done.....so now is my chance to show him that I can get things done & that it wasn't me that couldn't do things. Besides, to be quite honest & the main reason I like doing it myself is that it feels really good....a sense of accomplishment & all that kind of crap to be able to get things fixed & working again. To not have to hire an electritian to install the lights or a carpenter to do the casings & moldings or to be able to make my own draperies. I always enjoy the design process, but sometimes it's nice to be the one that actually does the work & pulls it all together. It's kind of like an artist painting a picture....when it's finished, it's your work or art & your accomplishment...not something that's easy to explain.

Most of the people here in KY are very much that way & will go out of their way to be helpful....it's not that I don't appreciate the thought & the offer.....I'm just in a place in my life where I am proving to myself that I can do all the things I know I can do, along with the need to be very very independent.

Hope you protective guys will understand that aspect of independent women too....lol.


Halliebeth,

Actually I do love the KY weather....the thunderstroms remind me of when I spent summers in Kansas with my Grandparents. The rain has been very gentle over the last few days....kind of settled in....gray all around & some harder rain....now it the time I need to check out my wooded area & see where the water runs so I can determine where I need to build my barn & dressage arena. I saw some water down there when I took Leo out for his potty walk....I just didn't feel good enough to walk all the way down there. I know I have some wet weather springs in the woods & a runoff creek along the side. Don't you love the little green that is starting to show....just in time for the frost....lol.

Chalmette,

Thanks for the get well wishes....I don't have time to be sick.....but when in the world does anyone have time for that?

Debbie

[pachyderm]

eskielover:

> I really do find it entertaining that men think women must be totally helpless....cause I'm sure he wouldn't have offered a guy friend to get his pilot
> light lit.....lol.

Of course not. Maybe he wants to be needed. Maybe he has other thoughts on his mind. That is not necessarily bad.

[bebop]

Debbie maybe he is single and wants to get to know his single neighbor too! nothing wrong with that hon! have fun and enjoy!

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Debbie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Please take care of you. If you start to feel too sick please find your new doctor. I know it is hard but give your body enough time to recouperate.

BB

[SeptemberMorn]

Debbie, I understand completely where you're coming from! Yes, it is a great feeling to be able to take care of yourself without hassles and without arguments!

Unfortunately, I've reached a point in my life where I DO need help, but the price is dear. Ah, well...

I'm so very happy for you! When are you coming back this way? Ever?

[wickedwings]

i guess, both ways has their price and benefits. i'm glad you're enjoying your independence. do be careful though, as burn-out can take longer to recover from. and, please, don't forego the e.r. if you need it. i know, independence is sweet, isn't it? i'd be yelling at the painter for taking that dog food, especially if it's the special kind. lol

[Rebound]

I really do think it is fantastic that you are successfully exercising your independence but I've seen many examples of this leading to not seeking medical treatment until the situation is severe. Please take care. I hope it all goes well.

[(JD)]

I am so happy to see you posting again (((Eskielover))))

Yes, life alone is certainly different. I just ran into a very protective police officer (through another bout of credit fraud victimization) He called the investigator and told him I should not be having to travel the state filing police reports. I've had contractor problems too... but it's stuff my T assures me they try to pull on everyone down here, not just women.

Just today my T was wondering if I could first take a nap before trying to decide what to do...and I replied, yes WE can take a nap...meaning me and my dog. He laughed with me and remarked how sometimes that's better than someone in the home, who, upon your saying you're hitting the hay replies they are staying up for the news!