[Aviza]

I'm looking into moving out on my own again and I'm very apprehensive about it. Last time I was on my own I ended up bugging my friends every day. Now I have a boyfriend so maybe he wouldn't mind being bugged daily but I'm trying to get additional help but I don't really think it will be enough. An ARMS worker would see me once a week. I'm also in therapy that day, and dbt that day, it's my day off work. So that day I'll be fine but what about the rest of the days?

Not to mention the added stress of being on my own. Bills bills bills. Right now I pay bills and have fun money. Money to do whatever I want with. Moving on my own means that's basically done for for 8 months. Pay back mom will add money to pay back credit cards. When those two things are paid off I'll be back to having a little extra money for fun stuff. I could use my tax money to move or pay off credit cards which would making moving easier. But than I have to save, which I suck at, for moving.

I have paid my past due bills, now I just have current bills to stay current with. I'm getting myself in a better position to move compared to when I moved out than the last time. I just have to decide if tolerating a difficult living situation can be done a few more months or if moving right now is the way to go. I have two debts that paying them off would make life easier, but than I might end up getting a more expensive apartment. I want to live cheaply and fully.

[Travelinglady]

One day at a time. Feel free to post here, get out with other people like to a park or a mall, find things to do like read and watch certain TV shows. Are you an extrovert (really get your batteries charged by being with others)?

[MickeyCheeky]

It seems like you have everything figured it out. I'm sure things will go alright

[ronmiller]

Don't freak out on the notion of being by your own. Enjoy each and every moment. Something unusual would unfold which will bring excitement in your life.

[eskielover]

Being responsible is a challenge but the rewarding feeling it privides is more that worth it.

You are in DBT so fully aware of mindfulness & seeing the BIG picture of life nit just the now so yoyr planning will work.....throw in self-control & yiu will be just fine.

I never lived on my own until I was 54 years old (10 years ago).I budget EVERYTHING down to the penny. I also budget monthly to pay my annual bills so I don't have to wonder where the money fir auto registration or property taxes or state taxes for my business will come from.

When I first moved to my farm after leaving my marriage I didn't have money for anything except paying bills. I still have very tight times & those are when self-control become very important.

I have never been happier in my life than these past 10 years. Being an only child growing up, I don't need to interface with people constantly but I enjoy all the wonderful people I have met & socializing & all the fun activities we do but in my case, owing a small 10 acre farm & taking care of the property is in itself a full time job in my retirement phase of life.

My degree was actually in Accounting & computer science....in my marriage we got into so much debt that even with a 2 engineering income we couldn't qualify to buy a house. I used a strategy I had learned long before Dave Ramsey came on the scene...pay off the lowest balance debt first while making minimum payments on the largest. Each time a debt gets paid off, roll the payment you are done with into the next lowest debt until only your high debt is left then all the money you were paying on debt is all rolled into knocking off the largest debt. It worked perfect for me. Then when I listened to Dave Ramsey on debt reduction he uses the same technique.

Living wuth a financially irrespinsible husband for 33 years has made me even more determined to be responsible & it feels so good to be independent.

I have no family other than my daughter alive in my life & she luves half way across the country so my friends here have become my family.....though I am totally independent when it comes to the successful responsibility of living my own life & it does feel good.

[divine1966]

You do have to make enough to live alone. I lived alone or with my kid most of my adult life but I also always made enough to live alone and don’t need second income. If you don’t make enough, you might want to try living with roommates. You still will be kind on your own yet not dependent on family.

[tevelygo]

Originally Posted by Aviza

I'm looking into moving out on my own again and I'm very apprehensive about it. Last time I was on my own I ended up bugging my friends every day.

That's good you got friends.

Maybe find some way to have to go out every day?

That could help a LOT.

(If you already go to work, sorry, I must've misunderstood something then)

[Aviza]

I can budget wise afford it.