[teejai]

<font color="purple"> Why is it that some people think (Should say that i am not saying anyone here necessarily does) that you can not have genuine mental health problems unless you were raised poor/working class/in poverty?
Was doing fine on a web forum till someone decided to latch on to the fact i wasn't raised in a working class environment .
Pointing out that it may have been middle class but it sure as hell wasn't ideal sent me from being accepted and reasonably liked to
enemy number one.
Whole thing really shook me up and distressed me (a) Because of the acute change of attitude based on something i had no control or responsibility over and (b(Because of the invalidation,rejection and trivialisation that occurred.

One sick(as in twisted) individual went as far as pretending to be supportive,
and like me still ,only to let me know sometime later it was a sham.
When your ability and willingness to trust is fragile and paranoia constantly lurking in the background due to past negative experiences
that is the very last thing you want done to you especially when you are in an emotionally distressed/confused/and hurt state anyway.

The stupid thing is that since living independently ie not with my parents i have lived anything but a materialistically opulent middle class lifestyle.

Being unmeployed and indeed told that work is not a viable option due to
your illness hardly places you as one of the middle class elite living in a Utopian paradise.
Neither does living for 7.5 years as my late wife and i did in a succession of
one room social security BB(Bed and brekfast) lets or bedsits in the less than reputable
private lets with Rachmann fan club landlords that are the ones you can afford.
Not forgetting spells of living in a tent and a 9x6 caravan sans toilet( with 16 year old highly sexual step daughter in tow) .

Yet there are those who would dismiss me and indeed despise me on account of things i had no control over ie an upbringing that was indeed one of comparative material comfort but certainly not environmentally anywhere near Utopian and ideal.



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that is harsh so sorry you've been treated in such a way.
No one should have to defend their struggles-- they are what they are. -- some people truly don't understand.

teejai-

mandy

Me too... so sorry you met up with those folks.

Mental illness knows no class or race or education or career distinctions. It hits people from all walks of life.

The folks you met are hurt and angry and looking to blame the outside world for their troubles. You fit a criteria they have in their head that separated you from them and made you an enemy of sorts. Or at least not eligible for their pity party club.

Count your blessings for the discovery that you were hanging with people who may prefer to stay sick and accustomed to poverty than work at being well and increasing their abundance.

Good it gave you cause to chime in here and be reminded that you are acceptable and supported and surrounded by friends who like you.... want to live well and with abundance in our hearts.

Ignorance is all. Anorexia is most prevalent in the upper middle classes. Kings and Queens have suffered through psychosis etc (though Syphilis / inbreeding etc complicates the issue).

Ignorance is all.

[DePressMe]

teejai, it sounds like you have been through the wringer. It also sounds like you have never quit fighting. You must be a very strong person--even if you have some mental health issues.

I, personally, don't believe mental illness knows any bounds of social or economic status. I have "rich" friends who struggle and I have "poor" friends who struggle with mental health issues. It strikes without looking at how much money you make or how much money your parents make.

I am sorry you have been treated like this. I have great compassion for you and how you have been treated...please hang in there. I wish I could say more to help ease your pain. Know that I am thinking of you.

[teejai]

Thank you for all your replies.

DePress me i am not sure i would call myself very strong more than obstinate or adopting a 'I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel and i'm not even sure there is one but just in case....'
Simplistically put it's akin to realising your chances of winning the lottery are very very small but if you don't buy a ticket your chances are none existent or trying to keep the candle of hope flickering in the hope of a brighter dawn.