Dad being a bully coz I'm fat

So, as you know i have weight problems cause of Olanzapine and I have being trying to lose it. I've been on injections that made me vomit and not lose weight. It took six months to lose ten kilos just for me to gain it back on. Well anyway on Saturday my dad has been going on about how lazy I am and fat. This was after eating at my sister's house and we went to my aunties house. I guess he had a complaint about my behaviour me being on my phone and not watching the movie whilst touching my hair. Basically the whole time there just being rude to me mum looks at me as I'm seated next to her and asks me if I'm okay I say I'm okay. Also my auntie said something about my weight to earlier. I'm not okay I'm worried about my health I'm insulin resistant which makes weight loss nearly impossible. I've been on keto just to see minor results only two kilo weight loss. Meanwhile I have these unhelpful people berating me over my weight and it's just unfair. I'm at a point of pulling my hair out literally because I want to the lose the 25kgs so bad but these assholes are making it hard for me not to be anxious and negative. Not really sure what to do dad said he had food for me yesterday I didn't want to be around him understandably because of it. I literally cried to my mum yesterday saying that "no one wants me coz I'm fat". I don't know what to do. I bought this fat loss device to see if it reduces my fat enough that my insulin resistance reverses so i loss weight. There's also Metformin that can help me lose weight but doctor wanted me to try to lose weight without it but I'm desperate. I really need a friend I feel so alone and unloved at the moment by everyone.

My family has been criticizing my weight since I was underweight. It helped when I realized that they will always criticize me, no matter what I look like. So I don't have to lose weight to please them. It also helped me to distance myself from them, but I do know how it feels. Just the other day, my Dad suggested that I take a medication for weight loss.

I'm in a similar situation. Medications drove my weight up considerably, to the point where I was legit shocked when I took stock. I'm still up and at 'em, out and about and just generally trying to get my life together. My father, when he doesn't wasn't to address issues in his life, has taken to going after me for my weight. For instance, he tried to plan an exercise regimen (not the first time) for me at a funeral. For someone close to him. Everyone around him had the good sense to look ashamed. Him? He just kept going. I know it's all deflection, but it doesn't hurt any less when someone you love decides to look at everything going on in your life and decide the solution is to go to the gym.

I'd like to lose weight at some point. I just don't have the degree of stability necessary to do it. I do know that when I start it, I'll be doing it for my sake, not his.

People’s obsession with weight is out of control. It’s like everyone has an opinion on other people’s weight like they don’t have their own problems to solve. I am sorry. My dad also likes to comment on weight. He makes subtle digs at people rather than direct comments. Try to tune them out if you must hang out with these people

I am so sorry. That is called verbal abuse and so cruel. I would tell him it is not helpful to criticize you when you are trying so hard. When he starts to criticize you, walk away, do not respond. Your mom should get involved and tell him to stop.....He is abusing you.

Wow, this must be a dad thing.

I'm sorry but I don't think any man should be looking at his daughter's body outside of acknowledging that she has one. My father, who is btw morbidly obese never fails to comment on a woman's body. He either goes into vivid descriptions of her female parts or "she's ugly as a mud fence". Thank god the man didn't raise me.

I agree. Any parent calling their children names or making inappropriate remarks is abusive. Period.

My Dad doesn't just comment on my weight. It's every woman he sees, including the ones on TV. Not the men, just the women. Drives me nuts!

I know exactly what you mean.

That sucks your family is so unhelpful and rude. For what it's worth, I lost weight on Metformin and changing my diet to deal with insulin resistance (I'm diabetic now). I think there is a lot people don't understand about why we gain and lose weight and a lot of hereditary factors as well.

I am taking metformin now and it helps.

I can relate. That ''family'' always did (and always will) criticise me no matter what weight I am..

And also almost everything else about me

(or even what species I am ...)

Distancing from those who enjoy criticising everything about us is probably wise.

Black-roses my sympathies to you. Although you gained it back on 22 pounds is significant & awesome. Congrats on having lost that. You being insulin-resistant, I still believe these basic eating tips will help if you're not already doing it: Eat 100% whole wheat bread instead of white bread. Drink fat-free/skim milk or 1% or 2% low-fat milk instead of whole milk. Cut down on simple sugars; too much sugar can cause weight gain (don't cut it down to zero. Your body/brain needs some sugar). Increase your protein intake. Higher protein reduces appetite and makes you eat fewer calories. It also helps increase weight loss, enhance muscle growth & improve your overall health (don't worry you're female, you won't be overly muscular like a man). Exercise will help too. Doesn't really matter what kind, it could be simple walking indoors, as long as your body is moving.

Stay positive. You are NOT fat. If anything, I would call it slight weight gain. There are lots of men who don't like thin women. I don't know about Metformin but please look at the side effects before deciding.

*HUG*

I don't know why you assume this has anything to do with men or that black roses is trying to attract a man. People tell me that too. I'm a lesbian, so don't care at all about men. For me, losing weight is about staying healthy. It has nothing to do with attracting a mate.

downandlonely, black-roses said "I literally cried to my mum yesterday saying that "no one wants me coz I'm fat"."

I read her other post where she said she likes her math teacher & she has feelings for him. Aka intimately

I gained a lot of weight on Remeron, so I know how easy it is for someone to gain weight because of a drug--and how hard the weight is to get off. But I did at the time. (I was much younger.)

I am overweight again--not due to medication, though--and my doctor had me doing all sorts of diets and exercise programs. The most I could lose each time was 12 pounds!

Speaking of parents, my dad is long dead. My mother finally learned to accept me like I was. (She's passed on now.) What does your mother say or is she still around?

I don't recall that you said how old you are, but if you are still living at home, you might just have to try to not pay attention and do the best you can to get at the weight YOU want to be, even if it's considered overweight.

I think American society is too obsessed over weight. I see women who are supposedly at a healthy weight and honestly , they look like sticks to me. I think your dad is doing wrong by fat-shaming you. It sounds like he's weight-obsessed, too.....

My personal doctor hasn't said a word about my weight the last few times I've been to see her. I see she's gained some weight, too.....Ha!

Regarding marriage, it's true that some men like larger women. My husband and I were both average weight when we married almost 34 years ago. But he can't say anything about my being overweight because he's even more overweight than I am! But some other men would even like me now, if they were into large, short women....