[itsjustme111]

I just got a phone call from my ex's lawyer. She wants me to meet them at the court reporters office. She said that they have a settlement which I will be very happy with. Which would mean this is all over. I have been sitting here crying my eyes out. Could this be possible?? The worries I have is I am not well; or will I be okay that this is over. Do I need to get help? Also, I dont have a lawyer to look over all of this. My doctor has not yet phoned back. I am going to call him right away.
So, he was not lying, he is giving me my kids back full time. I am a mom again; or maybe anyway.
Do I need h? I have so many other issues, what do I do?

justy

[dexter]

Talk to your doctor, as you are already planning to do.

The type of anxiety and depression you have been experiencing can be much more deep rooted then just what is going on right now, including your history with your ex and possibly some medical problems that contribute... chemical imbalance, thyroid problem, etc.

I would really not assume that this will all go away once you have a good settlement. You may feel a lot better, but your trip to the hospital is not just to make you feel better, it is to help you establish a firm foundation so that you won't have to go through this again.

Can you get a lawyer, even one assigned by the court, just to look over the paperwork before you sign? Even if his lawyer is reputable, she is looking out for his best interests, not yours. I'm not sure about this, but even if you can't get a lawyer to bring with you and represent you, can you call a law firm and see if you can bring the paperwork there for review before you sign, have them explain everything to you so you understand everything? Maybe at a fixed rate or something, I would think cheaper than making a "house call"

Do you feel comfortable with his lawyer? (not that that replaces getting counsel of your own by any means) I would think that a lawyer would have some professional ethics to go by and would not be as prone to play the mind games that your ex seems to revel in. Use your own judgement about that.

I hope this turns out to follow through just the way you have hoped. But don't let it interfere with your plan for treatment. Talk to the doc and it may pay to get a lawyer even if it will be tough to pay, if the agreement is good for you, don't let him push you around because he is "doing a favor"... if necessary, sign it under the agreement that he keep the kids for one or two more weeks so you can go for your treatment and get a plan for yourself, then after that he returns them to you and all is then (hopefully) over with.

Most important is to get some advice with this... whatever kind of legal counseling you can manage, and foremost, stay in touch with your doc throughout, be honest with him, and do what you have to to make this settlment work without sacrificing your health.

Good luck itsjustme and hope it all goes well, let us know!

{{{{{{itsjustme}}}}}}

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[itsjustme111]

Okay, here it is. I got the details; I get primary care of the kids; permanetly. It will be joint custody. I will get support and MY DIVORCE. I spoke to my t. They feel I do need to be put in the hospital. Just to get things straigtened out. Which will be meds, eating disorder, sleep difficulties, etc. They want a 2 week stay to get everything put in place and for me to get my emotions on an even or stable route. So this is whats happening. I will be hospitalized most likely by the end of today. We will deal with these things. Tomorrow my t and I are meeting with my ex and his lawyer to look over the papers; (my doc will give me a pass to do this). Then I will take them to a lawyer (minimal fees); if everything looks good, it will be signed.
So I got everything here. I am getting help and getting what my heart has desired for so long; MY BABIES.
I am excited but yet very tired. I will go and get the help I need and have so much to hold on to. So in about 2-4 weeks; my kids will be where they belong. WITH A HEALTY MOM IN A STABLE HOME!!!!!!!!!

Thanks so much all of u; this is a dream come true.

justy

Congratulations! My thoughts and prayers will be with you. I wish you the best.
Love,
Jon

[dexter]

{{{{{{{{itsjustme}}}}}}}}

This is so great justy... I'm about welling up with tears here, I am so happy for you. Please keep us informed.

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[itsjustme111]

Hey u all; Thanks so much, I am crying on this end too. I cant thank you all enough. I do love u guys and u sure helped get me through this. I am so darn happy; with the kids. I dont deny that I need to get the other things worked out; BUT I AM DOING IT!!! HURRAY.

I will keep u informed.

love;
Elizabeth

[jagster]

Hi, i hope everything works out well for you. Take care of yourself.

Jagster

[gloria]

Congratulations!
Be cautious, a step at a time, call your doctor. Be cool.


gab