I was very recently contacted by a friend of mine back in my old town who had been asked my location by someone (let's just call this someone X).

X says he wants to find me to apologize, but he had been very very harmful to me in the past, and harmful to my girlfriend. I thought X was dead, but apparently I was wrong.

Can people change that much? Or is this guy just trying to track me down to hurt me again? I fear for my safety and the safety of my family- the friend of mine that X contacted to try and find me said he sounded very phony in wanting to apologize.

I don't know if I should do nothing, or report this to the police- but if I report it then I'm sure it'll end up bringing past issues up and he will be charged with things, and it'll turn into another court case, etc. I thought X was dead but he's not, and I'm perhaps also scared that he is not sorry for past things and could hurt someone else.

Or maybe he really is sorry? I don't know what to do, this is awful timing for me. What would you guys do?

[I_WMD]

Wood I thought > . X . < was a relative and wouldn't ya know if they dead or not ???

Otherwise I would continue knowing this person is dead and let that be that .

X isn't related, no. He is someone different.

[sabby]

(((((((( Vince )))))))))

I think it's very important that you go with your gut instincts here. If they are telling you that he is dangerous and you cannot trust him, then go with that and leave well enough alone.

You and your family are much more important than this guy having his day to apologize...even if he may be truly wanting to apologize....it's time to drop it and live your life safely and in peace.

If you are feeling threatened....then by all means go to the authorities. Remember that safety for you and your family is top priority...not this guys feelings or intentions.

Be well and safe

sabby

[Perna]

I would thank the friend for notifying you of X's "interest" in your whereabouts and ask him, if he sees X again, to let him know you are dead :-)

I'm with wmd, make sure your real friends and relatives don't let X know where you are. If he finds out and is a problem, then you can call police.

[bebop]

I agree to leave him alone. no point in bringing up stuff from the past and being hurt again. better to be safe.

[Oceanlilly]

you should definitely stay away from this person....if he is toxic there is no need to get involved with that life style again....its better to be safe than sorry....

[nothemama8]

tell your friend to tell X, they don't know your where abouts, and stay safe

[splitimage]

I'm going with the consensus opinion here. There's no need to let anyone potentially unsafe into your life. You and your family now are your priority.

--splitimage

[Doh2007]

Me too. Besides, even if the apology is true, it's for X's peace of mind, not yours. It sounds like the risk isn't worth the payoff.

i think you should stay away from X