[wi_fighter]

I go to the court commissioner today and stand up to my ex to get at least some rules put in place about how the kids should be cared for regardless of whose house they're at.

I'm so nervous that they're going to look at my requests and concerns and think I'm being an overly protective mom who's blowing things out of proportion.

My lawyer didn't understand that my 10-y/o son didn't actually drink during the drinking game but was just taught and filled in for an adult who didn't understand it. I told him several times over the course of 6 weeks and he kept hearing that I said he drank. I never said he drank.

The picture of my daughter's bruise isn't really dark and it's kind of blurry. Are they going to dismiss that too?

<sigh>

[SeptemberMorn]

Don't borrow trouble, Hun. Just face it as it comes, WHEN it comes. None of know what's going to happen ahead of time on things like these.

Sending all the positive thoughts I can muster.

Tomi said it best so I'll just second her. Try not to worry. Deep breaths and relaxing thoughts. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Ry

[wi_fighter]

It didn't go badly, but it didn't go as well as I'd hoped. I had 4 things I wanted revised. The commissioner granted two. My daughter's prescribed medication MUST be given to her. On the ex's bowling night, the kids are to be with me, not alone or w/ his g/f.

I also wanted a "no drinking" rule in order while they were with him and no corporal punishment. He basically said he had a problem not being able to discipline the kids physically because he doesn't believe he hits them hard. The commissioner said since there was no history of physical abuse towards me or any restraining orders against him, that she couldn't enforce that rule. First he started to agree to giving up the drinking, but then realized he couldn't have a drink starting 12 hours before they got there until they returned to me the following week and refused to agree to that one. When she asked if he agreed to it he goes "I don't have a problem with that." but he meant to say he doesn't believe he has a problem with alcohol. Denial runs deep in this one, let me tell you.

He says nowhere in my daughter's medical records does it say she has ADD. The moron only got records from her current clinic, and they can't release records from any prior clinics they have in their possession. Bellin can only release Bellin records. If Prevea records are also in her chart, Bellin can't give those out, only Prevea can.

He said he's never been given any medication to give to her. (because he rolls his eyes and says she doesn't need it, so I give it to her at school during his weeks). The commissioner asks "if you had the medication, would you give it?" and he says "well, um, I don't know. Maybe. I don't think she needs it" To which the comissioner said "I believe a botle with a doctor's instructions on it is proof enough that she needs this medication." hahahahahaha I loved seeing him put in his place.

I got home and told my daughter that dad could no longer refuse to give her medication. She says it makes her sick to her stomach. I pointed out she gets sick to her stomach and headachy even when she doesn't take it and asked if maybe those are from being nervous. I could just about guarantee she doesn't want to take it and gets anxious because he's so against it.

My lawyer said my ex is arrogant and that he believes the commissioner is on to him, so I shouldn't worry. Now it's back into a holding pattern. We have to go to court-ordered mediation, which will go nowhere. Then we need to get a guardian ad litum and go before the commissioner again or the judge who originally heard our case. I'm hoping the judge, because she didn't like my ex the first time we stood in front of her.

So, part went good, part was a bit of a disappointment, but I'm going to concentrate on the part that went good and let the disappointments get taken care of in round 2 or 3.

CONGRATS!!!!! I'm so happy for you and you've got such a great attitude. You're not letting the things that didn't go your way get you down. Sweetie, that's admirable. I'm so proud of you. You should be proud of yourself for standing your ground and fighting for your kids. You're amazing.

Ry

[GreyGoose]

wi_fighter - Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and her bruise. I'm 42 now but came from a rough childhood so I know a little about this sort of thing. I highly commend you for getting out while you can for your sake and the sake of the children. I hope you won't take offense to my saying this. I just had a really rough childhood and I'm sure your children will thank you for it when they get older. ((((((hug2u))))))

[wi_fighter]

Ugh!

My mom called to find out how it went. Things were fine. I talked about how things didn't go perfectly, but went OK.

No sooner did I hang up with her, but my dad calls. 15 minutes later, I'm feeling like crap and pissed at my lawyer for not speaking up more.