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Fuzzy,

You know how much you are a very very valuable person....which invalidated the thinking that you are a nobody......

Then we work on the next item.....your posts.....you know that you can say so much in so few words & you also have the right words at the right time.....I know....I have been blessed by your words......so you gotta listen to me!!!!!

Now what we really need to work on & I know this is the toughest & easy for someone else to say.....but.......you can't let horrible people who abused you (& you know how horrible they are) control how you are feeling about yourself????? How can horrible people know the truth anyway....because bad people always have a warped sense of values & abusers are bad people....warped sense of values aren't the truth & we all know that.

so now lets work on something more fun......they abused you when you were young....now it your turn to get (we won't use the term even).....but maybe just provide them with the truth about yourself....& kick a little @$$. I get so angry when I am mistreated....you read my current post.......I hate it when I allow myself to feel bad because of horrible people....then I get angry at them.....that is when they better watch out.....there is nothing like a woman scorned. They need to be put into their appropriate place & nothing better than doing it directly to their face & letting them know excatly where they stand.....It really gives one a really great warm feeling to tell off the jerks that have been making us feel bad for so long.....just think of how long you have been holding in those emotions to kick their rears.....don't you just want to let them have it?

I know when I really couldn't let it out at times....I do have to find a release because if I let it pile up inside.....I just end up feeling horrible. I used to play racquettball.....I played really hard & really mean.....& was out to win.....but more than that.....I would sometimes picture a face on the little blue ball & really knock the snot out of it.....those were the times I usually won the game too....but that's besides the point....I would come off the court exhausted & feeling so good because I really whammed the enemy.....& all those abusers are your enemy & they shouldn't hold any other place in your life than the enemy....satan....evil.....the people who will be destroyed in the end because of how they treated you.

If they continue to abuse you....it's time to put an end to that too....I know.....definitely easier said than done for sure.....but that is the thinking.....the putting a complete stop to allowing them to do what they do & to put them in their place & let them know that YOU are now NOT going to allow them to treat you that way from this point on....& THAT'S JUST THE WAY IT'S GOING TO BE....sometimes we can do it in a nice way...if they allow it....but sometimes we just have to stop it any way we can & sometimes that means having to get mean & nasty just to make the point.....after the point is made....then one can settle back into our normal mode.

I have been pushed around by people & I have sat back afterwards & said to myself....I really should have told them off or said this or that.....If they continue to hurt me....I accumulate all my should have told them's & sooner or later....they get all of them at one time......they usually don't mess with me again after that.

Then if they decide they want to be decent people around me....I will consider allowing them to be around me....ON MY TERMS....not theirs.

You are such a wonderful person just the way you are....but we really need to get those abusers to see the FUZZY that won't put up with their crap anymore.....cause you are too wonderful to have to deal with those idiots.....& when you don't deserve to be treated in an abusive way.....they need to know that you won't continue tolerating it. It really doesn't mean changing ones personality...it basically means setting up ones boundaries & letting everyone around know what they are in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS.

You are loved & cared for & are the most valuable person.....you need to know this & make those horrible people either accept it or go packing.

BIG BEAR HUGZ to smother those bad feelings you are having,
Debbie

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love,
Fuzzy