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Oct 02, 2004, 02:38 PM
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I just don't know what I can do. My daughter is battling with her own mental problem but yet lives in an abusive relationship with her "significant" other. I call daughter to see if she took her meds and to tell her I will pick up her son soon. She is crying, crying and crying her eyes out. She wants to kill herself, wants the pain to go away, wants the mental illness to go away. I tried talking and reasoning with her, but could not help her feel better. I have this awful gut feeling that someday she will do it. I don't know what to do. I feel guilty, I want to solve her problems....is this the mom in me? I just want her better. She is seeing a Pdoc and counselor, but both have had to cancel on her do to other circumstances. And I know what this does to me, depresses me even more. It brings out the anxiety in me, I have to set boundaries, but if she did succeed at suicide, I would feel it was my fault. I don't know what to do!
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Oct 02, 2004, 03:34 PM
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(((((snowflake))))) I reccomend telling her about your concern for her, and asking her to promise you she won't do it. If she promises, she probably won't do it. For some reason, this is one of those things that people tend to keep their word on. If she won't promise, I reccomend very strongly that you get her some help immediately. However you can.
Aside from that, I think you are doing all you really can do right now. Keep being there for her to talk to, because you can help relieve her pain- even if just a little, it will make a difference. But also take care of yourself. You need to be strong and healthy for you AND for her, or you won't be able to help either one of you. So sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine how worried and heartbroken I would be if I were in your shoes.
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Oct 02, 2004, 04:18 PM
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Thank you SweetCrusader for you words. Before I left my daughters home she said she would be okay. She did promise be that she would not hurt herself, so I am glad to hear that usually people who promise do not follow through. I will see her again tomorrow, but not until late evening. Hopefully she will be feeling better.
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Oct 02, 2004, 04:20 PM
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I agree that the best thing to do is to talk to her about your worries. Getting her to talk about any suicidal feelings is really important. I would also check on how well she is able to care for her son right now when she is so depressed. Children pick up on a lot more than people think. (this comes from a person raised by a depressed mum)
Another thing to consider is this - HIPPA does not allow her therapist or Pdoc to talk to you, but it does not prevent them from listening. You can call both, and express your concern at your daughters condition. They may not be aware of how depressed she is, and that her significant other is big stressor. They may also not know that both of them have dorked up appointments lately. You are a good mom to worry. Just be sure to take care of yourself too! Remember to do what you can, then step back to do some self care. Sort of reach out, then step back and nurture yourself. You can't constantly take care of others, you need to take care of you too!!  Emmy
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Oct 02, 2004, 05:00 PM
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Emmy makes a good point, I have to say.
I'm glad to hear that your daughter promised not to do it. That really is a good sign that she's hanging in there. (((hugs))) if you want them! Angela
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Oct 02, 2004, 07:04 PM
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I have been to a session with my daughter and her therapist once to voice my concerns about her enviroment and my grandsons mental well-being, so they do know my stand there. I did neglect to let them know that she does talk suicide because it had been a while since she acted that way. I think you are right Emily, I need to contact them on Monday and let them know. It is very difficult to seperate myself from my children. I know this is a problem that I need to deal with and hopefully come to terms with. Thank you for your thoughts Emily.
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Oct 02, 2004, 07:05 PM
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Thank you for the hug. I never refuse a hug!
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Oct 02, 2004, 07:07 PM
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snow, something emmy said reminded me of something that happened when I was in my 20's. My parents actually called my doctor (that was back when pdoc's did therapy, too), and said they were concerned that I might be suicidal. So he called me and talked me through it. So calling her counselor and letting him/her know your concerns might be a very good idea.
*hugs* mj
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Oct 02, 2004, 08:02 PM
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Thank you mj..........
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