[Fuzzybear]

I guess it has to be ... that the healthier we become, the more we attract healthier people to us?

[LookingForMe]

You are very philosophical today, Fuzzybear! *grin*

That's a hard question. Maybe, its the other way around....the heathier we become, the more attracted we are to healthy people. We are better judges of who and what is healthy.

Once I realised I was suffering from depression, I searched out others who could relate to me. They didn't come looking for me. So, maybe the same would be true as we get healthier ...we are better equipped to maintain healthy relationships.

<font color=green>Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.</font color=green> --Alan Keightley

[darkeyes]

That is true, and I believe there have been studies on that topic as well as people with degrees being more attracted to those with degrees, and the higher level, well the more attracted to one another. So many things I've read over the years and still wonder.
But I have seen where (Example) where a man with a PhD stated he was not attracted to woman without college degrees, and then saw articles on the internet by such person and his cronies that stated this, as they referred to some expert's articles, journals, and other bullstuff.
Ah, who knows, eh?
But yeah, the healthier, and healthier the body appears to others is a subtle message that this person has pride, and for the opposite sex the inner animal instinct is to choose (and not even conscieniously (sp?) know who would be the healthiest and best carrier of his offspring.
Just my "warped" 2 cents,

"me"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[SeptemberMorn]

and for the opposite sex the inner animal instinct is to choose (and not even conscieniously (sp?) know who would be the healthiest and best carrier of his offspring.

Hmm... I've got three sons and only one made a conscious choice about the kind of woman he married. He "done" pretty darn good! Wish all my grandkids had a mother like her.





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[darkeyes]

Sept, I love your reply and got a big kick out of it
The health part of this I can say "yes, I think there is truth to that".
The other part about the man I referred to with his PhD. and the remarks or should I say essays that his cronies and he make and have made, kind of make me feel there are so many more prejudices than I ever thought existed. Maybe I am naive, but when I read and heard the latter I became mildly agitated by their pompous attitudes towards those in the world that do not carry any degrees in their file cabinets or mounted on their walls. . .
Maybe, DE is just in a crabby mood, you know the "PMS" thing

Have a good week

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[(JD)]

heheheh well, I know one guy that quit conversing with me once he found out I had a PhD too! So you get that too. Hmm... wondering what you meant by his cronies... certainly not all ppl with PhDs are cronies? lol

yes there are many prejudices out there. I find myself gravitating towards those with degrees because 1) I bore other ppl for long conversations 2) they can keep me attentive with their information, again for the long haul.

I have great satisfaction speaking with everyone along my way ( on a decent day and time) but really only for short conversations... (and I learn from all ppl too...)

It isn't the degree that counts, it's what you do with it, and how you "hold" it that counts. In my travels I have met many a degreed person that I wouldn't want to give the time of day, and conversely I have met many knowledgeable, interesting, personable ppl who never saw college.

Now back to the original... I am not well, but am usually healthy. I find non-ill ppl are easier to be around... and those who are not so healthy more stressful to be around... but then, I'm a sensitive, so?

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{FuzzWuzz}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I think it works both ways.

[eskielover]

I have found that sometimes people who have poor health concentrate on it so much that it is almost all they talk about because it is what they are involved with &amp; it has become their life. When you are well, you are able to do so many things that your life can be broader.

People seem to be attracted to those they have things in common with because they are then able to talk to each other. So it would make sense that the healthier we are, the more we can be involved in, &amp; the more we have in common with healthier people so we have more to talk about.

I don't know if this makes sense, but it is something I have noticed over the years. It seems to apply to holding a degree also because when you have a degree, it is harder to have a lot in common with those who don't. Your career, life, &amp; interests are usually tied with your education. People who have things in common seem to attract to one another.

Just a thought,
Debbie

My take on this: I am as comfortable talking to some doctor as I am someone who didn't finish highschool. Perhaps it's because I'm a therapist, but I don't think so. I think it is because my parents reared me to be the way I am. Neither of them had a highschool education but they made sure that we had tons of friends who did a little bit of everything. There were always plenty of books to read, music, good food and some sort of spiritual support. They were helpful to anyone that needed it and I think it rubs off on a child, because that's all I saw. BUT, I do see the prejudice that is directed towards mainly women, from higher educated men.....I just ignore it and go on. If I had given up on everything I've ever tried, because some man said "NO, little lady".....I'd be miserable. And I'm not bashing men. Women just don't ordinarily tend to treat their sisters that way. It's sorta a "male thing"......Anyway, I also think that the healthier we get, the healthier people we attract...plus I think those of us who are depressed, etc. know the value of having to work hard to have a normal life...

[Wants2Fly]

I ran into a gasterenterology practice of younger physicians who seemed to think that the problems of middle-aged women are not to be taken seriously: there is some research to support this view of doctors who believe that M-A females are whiners, complainers, hypochondriacs. Going through "the change" you know.

One of these young snips actually smirked at me as I was being IV'ed for a procedure.

I changed practices, found a physician who took what I was saying seriously, promised we"d "get to the bottom of this," and did. Altho it is rare for physicians to criticize each other, as you know, he refused to use medical records from this practice, saying that they were incomplete and did not give him enough information. He added "they usually are" from that group.

Sticking with that practice set my search for a diagnosis back about a year.