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of home, i am 30 now and i just have no motivation to get a job. I have no motivation to move out of home either, i don't care where i live, but apparently it's the thing to do. Tell me what to do now.
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Lets see, I'm guessing that you have a Mother that does your laundry, cooks your meals, cleanes the house, pays all the bills........just as it's been all your life.
Where is the incentive to change? It has to come from within. You have to want the responsibiity of taking care of yourself, the pride of having your own place that you want to keep clean & neet. You have to want the independence of having your own money to do with as you like without getting an allowance or asking for the money when you need it. No one can tell you what to do next.....you have to tell yourself what you want out of life & make that be your driving force. Yes, it's the easy thing to do is to have someone take care of us the rest of our lives. Who wouldn't want a slave to do everything for us.....no responsibility.....no worries. But then....how much do we really grow when we stagnate in the same place for all our lives. Who & what do we really become. When we decide who & what we really want to be in this life, that is when we decide what we want to do. When we start taking pride in ourselves.....that is when we can start taking action to grow beyond the child we have always been, under the care of our parents. Only then will you be able to tell yourself what to do now. Debbie
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well, make a plan.
where can you afford to live? what will it cost? you need a job - what do you like to do? will you need room mates for a time, ck with a reputable agency in your area? will you use public transport or buy a car and insurance? there are things to answer for yourself, and others, if you want imput. put it all on paper - then get your 'to do' list ready because you have electric, maybe gas, cable, will you have to pay garbage, what will your transportation budget be? so........... this is going to be great, becoming independent, self-reliant and all that jazz! you will wish you did it sooner, but heck, no time like the present. best of luck to you. if you want to air out things, please post more for people here to gain insight into where things will be difficult for you so we can support you through it, if you like. relief in your old house, lol, nightbird ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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