the ripple effect...or pay forward

((i am sorry , I am using my storys))((i am nothing but just me)))
((please take it that way)) ((ty))
only way i know to make my point......of peace and helping all

When I was young I believed in many things. I had a wise Aunt who taught me never to fear questions. She was a wonderful person.
Out of all of my teachers in life she was one off the bests.
She taught me to be humble. to love to care to show kindness.
She incourged me to stand in line with others at our home town to have it cleaned up.
She taught me peace......inner peace...
When i was around 12 or 13 I think our town needed a youth center. They needed kids to step foward. To help get it going. Which was no easy task.
I was on the board from the beginning because I believed kids had rights and needed a place.

Later in life when my aunt passed away. Due to a rare brain cancer.
a group of us tryed to have our school moved where a toxic site was.
Because once again I believed in kids. ((my aunt had been a teacher at that school)))
There was no benifit to me. I had moved away by then.
I failed at that one...but left a peaceful impression..the protest still goes on....
in town here when the kids were harressed because they skate boarded a group of us got together and worked on getting them a park..so they were safe...
when a vet was missing his marker on his grave....it took a few phone calls to washington to get what he deserved....
(( that was a mistake of the cematary not the vets)))
when my sister was ill..i moved her here you all watched me post on it and how I struggled with it
I finally reliazed I was inableing her......i looked deep inside myself ..
and reliezed some of my reactions to her were making it easyer for her to continue on the path she was....
I sat down with her and told her she was now incontrol of her behavior....
I have let her go now...and she is doing much better.....fuctioning , being peaceful and helping others now.....
I broke the cycle with erh and I.....
which has the road to her healing i hope.....
I know now there is some peace with that.
rambleing of the lamb
hope it helped some how
muffy

(((muffy))))

your sister sounds like she is doing better now... it was hard for you to assert yourself and set the boundaries you did, but you each are onto a path of healing now... you had the strength and insight to help your sister best by showing her the ropes to independence... now she is healthier for herself and your own health is on its way to improvement...

co dependent people are not bad people, sometimes they are people who didnt have an opportunity to learn healthier ways of life... its taken me several years to recognize several bad habits within myself that growing up i thought of as harmless fun.... i can now see the heavy ball i was under... my searching for satisfaction and prosperity caused me to do some harmful things to myself and others.. i am sorry for my ways and i want to repair the damages i caused.......

i think the best place for me to start is by having considerate feelings for others.. ive hurt them and i didnt intend to... i will search further into my intentions in the future...

isnt there a doctors motto? 'First do no harm." i'm sure i could research it further, but i know thats what ive heard... good advice imo...
thank you for sharing this

((nowheretorun))) ty
Yes she is on her way.......
"do no harm" is a great statement ...
in my trying to help her I was infact harming her by letting her continue her bad bahavior even thou I did not know all that was involved.....

link to do no harm.....http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hippocratic_Oath

this is the best to follow and you do it well
((considerate feelings for others))
muffy

Sometimes helping doesn't really help at all.

(((((orange)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
apart of that is true...as had i not gave her what she wanted
everytime she asked she would not have been able to buy the drugs.
even thou i did not know thats what she was doing....
i shoulda known....
that was hard to write.....

sometimes it does thou......
had I not helped her at the end
when she took a turn for the worse...
((by moving her here))
idk what would have happened...
But there is the chance she very well of could have healed her self
SHe still has done this on her own...
the healing part....sorta
Shes clean anyways.......

As far as back home goes I helped some...
but not enough.......
As you know thats outta my hands

You (((((((orange)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Have always made a huge difference to me
you have always helped me
Thank you
muffy

((( muffy )))

You are a good sister, don't ever doubt that you didn't do enough. Trust me, it won't help you heal and guilt has a bitter taste.

So just keep being fluffy.

awww((((((orange)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
thank you
i have a real hard time not being me awwwwww
goofs and all

((( fluffy goofy muffy )))

Good RELATIONSHIPS stories.

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Good RELATIONSHIPS stories.

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((((((((((((sky))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Not sure I would call them good relationship storys
some was good thou
as it was my life ...well part of it...
ANd shaped part of me to be me....
In the long run as I said I did not do the right thing by my sister
to start with.....only enabled her...even thou I did not know.
Back home was just a issue
ty for caring thou
that means alot
muffy