[Dingoroo]

still pretty new so I hope I'm in the right section

I was having a talk with a mate the other day over an online chat program, and she pointed out that I come across and being so much shyer online! I thought about it for a little because normally people always say how much easier it is to communicate online rather then face to face or on the tele.

I realized I am shyer online, I come across as much more confident and secure in real life. I thought it was a little odd and a funny thing, because it should be easier to speak to people online maybe it's because I don't really know how people make friends online (sit in chat? run across people on forums?) and in the real world, it's just easier to come across people.

none the less, I feel like a duffer because in chat and on the forums I've had to push myself to talk I don't know how to make friends online and I think it makes me come across as awfully foolish!

so, how do you make friends online?

best wishes to all

[I_WMD]

Dingo ,, I was real sorry at real life interaction >> and it showed when I first joined here as to communicateing thoughts through typed words ,, then I learned better how to choose words with a more discriptive meaning so as not to get lost in the translation .

Now as far as being more confidant and jumping in there in chat rooms use your strengths ,, mine is mostly humor ,, But seriousness as needed also .

Every thing in life takes practice ,, I mean the first time I tried to fly ,,,>>>. erm Lets just say I was glad the ground was soft around the back of the house >> LOL .

Needless to say I didn' t try that one twice ,, well not without wings that is >...

[reddevil]

At least your able to push yourself into talking. Just get your voice out there, and you'll become more and more known.

[Karissa258]

I have the exact opposite problem. I'm very "talkative" and outgoing online, but in real life, I'm quiet. A few days ago, though, I started acting like my online self IRL, and it was kinda nice. I think part of the reason I'm not a big talker is because of my mom. She likes to monopolize the conversation, and really doesn't care to listen to others, unless there's something she wants to know. She's kinda immature that way. Blah. Anyway, I'm just glad I'm finally, maybe, hopefully, learning how to open up.

I'd ditto the advice given. Just kinda post all over, be polite and kind and friendly, and see what happens. People have PMed me and started conversations. It's been really nice so far. (I'm pretty new here, but I've been in other forums before.)

[DePressMe]

Dingoroo...maybe the shy you really is you...a part of yourself that comes out when you are online. I am not saying this is you, but for me, in real life, I put up a facade of being confident and outgoing when really on the inside I am shy. I am not saying you are not confident or outgoing--that is just how it is for me.

Being shy is not necessarily a bad thing--it is just part of me. Sometimes, the less words you use, the more powerful your words are...Shy people can say a lot if you listen to them.

I think you are doing what you need to be doing to make online friends. Your are putting yourself out there with this post. Hang around here, post and maybe start sending some PMs to people you are relating to...

I wish you the best...

<font color="purple">I...think I'm your average online person.
But, irl, I can either be:

a.) quiet
b.) blunt
c.) just plain silly
d.) all of the above </font>