Quick Question

What is some peoples opnion regarding the sex M or F as regards to treatment. I have always been uncomfortable around male doctors. I had one that would never give me any feedback? Just kept mmm. Now I know tpists are supposed to listen etc. etc. However, I have been told by several people that it is just like clock work that women are better listeners then men. Simply because it is in there genetic structure. Where men are the ones that are able to pull tough and/or the ones that think by logic.

Hence, never ever go against a womens gut feeling. I have twice and got burned both times by doing so. Enough Said!

My male T listens better than anyone else I know.

i have a male t and i couldn't disagree MORE with female being more responsive, etc.

he is the best t ever. i had two female t's for a very short time and they seemed to over react to everything that i told them...that or dimiss it. i don't think that gender applies. i'm sure lots here would have a totally different experiece from mine...which brings about my point. i think it's more personal preference and the t personality, skill, expertise and experience that makes it work...not gender.

of course, there are some survivors who could never see a t with a different gender...that wouldn't apply to what i was talking about.

kd

I beleive F can be very logical
Reah

are you suggesting that females can't "pull tough or think by logic"?????

my male t is way more emotional than i am! he's a male who happens to have a big, caring heart. also, one heck of a brain!

again, don't think the gender thing applies so much in t.

kd

Okay thank for you input. It is hard being a guy. Well to come clean here is the deal I would like to talk more about relationships with my fm tpist but at the same time I don't want to offend her. Ya know what I mean?

However I had a guy tpist and I feel like if I had another one I would be ignored? I dunno, I just wish there was a perfect virtual tpist which you could say whatever you wanted and not feel like you being judged. Hey that could be part of the issue as well. Man, life is not easy!

No of course not. It's amazing what women can survive through! I'm just thinking scientifically from what has been studied. Studies show that wome feel more with there heart. Where as men are more logic driven. Hence, more men are businessmen and I would bet there are more women social workes. However, that does not mean that the norm always applies and in allot of cases I would not want it to!

Ahh, gotcha. yes, that's a sticky subject here as well. but i always warn him in advance when i'm going to say something sticky so that we're both prepared.

maybe you should try that. also, remember she's a professional and will use her skill and training to deal with these issues just as she would with other issues. if you can give her a bit of warning, then say what you need to say, it will still be uncomfortable, but should go really well for both of you

gl

kd

Great, thanks for the a d v i c e, oops I mean support, lol. I'll try that. Now I just go to think of what hint to use.

I think that's the point made jt: it's you not the T. Real T's don't judge anything a patient says.

Yeah you are right. I guess not it is not so much maybe being judged now that I think about it. Maybe it is just her input which I either don't want to accept or just plain not be right for my circumstance at the time. I dunno? Not an easy thing to discuss much less find one that is right for you?

don't need a hint. just say something like...i need to talk to you about a specific topic that will be uncomfortable for me...sex. LOL @ advice. this is NOT advice...it's personal, past experience, so it's considering more of a sharing? lol

kd

your funny!!!!

I'm glad you said it makes me feel allot better now!!! You must read minds or know what we all think in our heads, lol. I guess it would not be so bad if I felt she is kind of prudish?

This thread belongs in Psychotherapy or such don't you think?

I think it depends more on the person than thier gender