[jbug]

I hate it when this particular symptom comes up and I get irritable. Just the littlest thing sets me off onto a tangent and I get all worked up and get angry.

I was out at my parents house today and my dad has a new thing that before he will grant my food money request I have to show him a weeks worth of menus. So no problem I work up my menus for the week and get out there and show it to him then he tells me I did it wrong and he wanted me to also calculate how much each meal is going to cost so that he will know how much I am spending on each meal. So I had to sit down and redo the whole thing. He also told me that he told me to do it on the computer. Well my computer isn't compatible with his computer so it would be useless for me to do it on the computer because I don't have a printer. So I got mad. I am still angry every time I think about how much time I wasted doing it. He also then didn't give me enough money to get all my groceries.

I am just tired of getting angry at the drop of a hat and feeling irritable all the time. I am glad that I see my pdoc on Monday and maybe I can get a med change or something.

Jan

[gimmeice]

(((((((((((((( jbug ))))))))))))))))))))
Is there anyone else that can take over your money issues? I know that where I live they have caseworkers at the local mental health facility that help people with their money and budgets. They become your payee and work with you to get your bills payed and still have money for what you need.
I am sending you some hugs.

[jbug]

I wish I could do that. I brought the idea up to my dad and he said no he said if I did that he would no longer help me out money wise. I can't make it every month without my parents help. They have to give me money to be able to help me survive and if I take away his power of being my payee so goes their monthly help also.

Jan

[Michah]

So hear you babe.......hope you can have a good chat to your doc.....

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( jbug ))))))))))))))))

[jbug]

Well chalk it up to being a woman as to part of the reason I'm irritable right now. I hate it too having to say I'm PMSing right now or at least I was I'm now on my period so now I just get to be down right nasty if I want to be not really but I feel that way sometimes.

I should have known that was part of the problem. I'm glad that soon it will be over and maybe I'll be back to my happy go lucky persona I normally have.

Jan

[Pomegranate]

I'm glad you became aware of why at least part of your feelings of irritability were happening. But I would feel very crabby if I had to deal with someone making me jump through the hoops your father is just to get money so I could eat!

It's good to plan for healthy, inexpensive meals, especially if you are on a tight budget and/or have diet concerns. But your father sounds a bit too much like a dictator in the way he deals with your food money. Can you talk to your counselor about this? Maybe she can give you some ideas on how to talk to your father, to let him know how stressful and demeaning his tough tactics make you feel.

[jbug]

One of the things my T and I are working on is my reaction to the demands my dad puts on me. Unfortunately he puts a lot of demands on me and expects me to jump through certain hoops in order to get my money. So I am learning new coping skills to self regulate when the stress level gets too high. I have learned that telling him that his behavior is out of line doesn't work so it is just a waste of words. In fact it can come back to haunt me later so it is just best not to tell him. He likes to store up things I tell him and use them as ammuntion in arguements later on. Our communication skills aren't the best and I know this and am trying to work on this but it seems sometimes he doesn't want to work on it.

Jan

[Pomegranate]

That's the thing to understand and accept, he DOES NOT want to work on communicating. It's his way or the high way. He does not care about your feelings or the difficulities of your limitations. That's what you should ask for help with from your Therapist. How to cope with that.