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Jan 23, 2009, 09:53 PM
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I will try to make this cohesive...my thoughts are not exactly in order right now. My girls are at a sleepover at karate tonight. Kaity, my 15 year old as many of you know is almost a black belt in Tang Soo Do. Her best friend used to be in karate with her, that's where they met; her name is Morgan. Morgan's father committed suicide, then her mother became addicted to drugs and died from an overdose. Kaity didn't know Morg then, this is was when Morg was 10 or 11 when her mom died. Anyway, Morg is like my daughter. She calls me mom. She was so well adjusted considering the awful things she went through. She lives with her grandparents, whom my girls call grandma and grandpa. Tori, my oldest daughter just called me from the sleepover wanting to know if I could get ahold of grandma, and Tori was crying. Kaity was on the phone with Morgan and found out Morgan tried to kill herself; or at least had the ideation. She cut herself and then wanted to and thought about going deeper, all the way. I don't have a cell phone number for grandma or for her aunt. I called the house and no one answered so I called Tori back and she said Kaity was talking to Morgan, so I had Tori talk to Morgan and I talked to Kaity, who was hysterical. She said that Morgan was ok, grandma was home. Kaity calmed down and I said I was going to leave to come get them and she said no, she wanted to stay. Matt, her karate instructor, is really close to Kaity and is going to be talking to her and will be with her. I talked to Morgan and she was fine--this happened last week, grandma knew and she is in counselling. Morg had been seperating herself from us and Kaity for a while and she started crying saying how much she missed Kaity (they don't go to the same school). I know I'm babbling, I just can't stop shaking and don't even need any one to reply because there's nothing to reply to, I just needed to get it out. I'm so scared, and scared for Kaity and Morgan and I know I can be there for them and support Morgan and let her know we love her. I just breaks my heart, though.
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#2
Jan 23, 2009, 10:05 PM
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   ((((((((((((((((CANT)))))))))))))))))))))) I don't know what to say but I'm sending you and your girls some BIG HUGS. |
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Jan 23, 2009, 10:07 PM
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Oh Kaika, thank you!
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Jan 23, 2009, 10:10 PM
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It's the least I can do
 A lot of my friends have gotten into various states of deep depression (some even to the point of SI) but not enough to try to commit suicide. |
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Jan 23, 2009, 10:18 PM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{CSC}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Take some slow, deep breaths, Hon. It's over for now. I can imagine how upset you feel, though.
One thing that you and "grandma" may or may not know; children of suicide are more suspetible to it than most anyone else. Hope "grandma" knows this so that Morgan can be treated and watched properly. Don't let her pull away too far from you and your girls. You're all in my prayers.
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Jan 23, 2009, 10:36 PM
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thank you so much! I definately will talk to grandma tomorrow. If I can stop shaking, I'm going to try to read and sleep. thank you dear.
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Jan 23, 2009, 11:01 PM
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What a hearbreaking story. If its any solace, re-read your first post, and recognize what a fantastic support network this girl has (which includes yourself). She'll definitely need it to get through this rough patch, but at least you and so many others are there for her.
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Jan 24, 2009, 01:24 AM
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thank you digdug! It is heartbreaking.....teenage years are bad enough, struggling to find your identity and such. I just pray she doesn't close up and try to deal on her own!
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Jan 24, 2009, 05:51 AM
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((((((((((cantstopcrying)))))))))))))
after going through similer issues with own daughter i know how hard it is, you are all doing a great job, your kids are good to care and not push it out of the way or tease as a lot of ppl that dont understand about mental health do
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Jan 24, 2009, 06:10 AM
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(((((((((((( gentle hugs for you all )))))))))))))))
Oh Marci just know that you are great for bringing up two wonderful, caring girls. This is difficult, but I'm so glad Morgan has so much love and support. You're in my thoughts, Molly
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Jan 24, 2009, 06:41 AM
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(((((((((((katheryn)))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((molly))))))))))))
thank you both for the kind words. the thing that scares me is that kaity will find some way to blame herself...as you said she is a deeply caring and feeling person. I need strength to show her it isn't her, but it's the things morg has gone through. thank you both.
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Jan 24, 2009, 11:19 AM
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wow. thanks God that the girl is fine for now, after all.
huggs and prayers. |
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Jan 24, 2009, 01:11 PM
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(((((((((( csc ))))))))))))))))
(((((((((Kaity ))))))))))))))) ((((((((((( morgan ))))))))))))) You are doing a wonderful job with your daughters, just try to support kaity through this and reassure her that it isn't her fault.
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Jan 24, 2009, 02:41 PM
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Thank you for being so kind. I picked the girls up this morning, asked them how they were (of course, "ok" is what I got). We talked about it for a few minutes and mostly I got "I don't know". When I dropped Kaity off at Morgans, Tori started talking and talking and talking. She said that, unfortunately as soon as Kaity heard she hung up on Morgan. Out of fear. Tori got her to call Morg back. Kaity collapsed in Tori's arms in tears. Tori has a friend who, 2 years ago was cutting, so Tori talked to Kaity about how she talked to him and how Morgan needs her to step through her fear and be there for Morgan. So that was good. Kaity's karate instructor talked to Morgan to. They all talked until the battery on Kaity's phone died, then Kaity and Morgan talked for a couple hours this morning and when I dropped Kait off, Morg came running out to the van to give me a hug. I know this isn't the spirituality forum but I would appreciate all prayers. Thank you all for your support and wonderful words.
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Jan 27, 2009, 10:07 AM
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(((cantstopcrying and Kaity and Morgan and Tori)))))))))) You are all in my prayers. To Kaity: she did so good calling you and telling you. (((cantstopcrying))) You are a good Mom ((cant))) Morgan is very blessed to have all of you. And you blessed to have Morgan. Life at that age can be so hard, With what Morgan has gone threw its really hard. My heart hurts for her. I am so glad she has you and your Daughters to turn too. Muffy |
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Jan 27, 2009, 10:52 AM
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Thank you so much! That means a lot! I appreciate all the love and support!
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