[inkblot]

This guy I ride with sometimes--a guy one who couldn't see the rail road gate coming down once--is in the middle of a practical joke war with one of the other homeless guys. Well, he just bought house bug fumigator to use INSIDE this other guy's van as a practical joke! I and another guy had told him several times before not to do it. I sent a couple text messages and later voice mails to another friend who was with the intended "victim" so he could forewarn him and that effin IDIOT didn't believe me! He said he told him, and that he also didn't want to be part of it! HELLO?!?! I am trying to keep a guy safe and he doesn't want to help keep the same guy--one of his own best friends--safe?! The guy who bought the fumigator stuff seriously thinks it won't make Vic sick--he really, actually thinks its all in good humor. He hasn't done anything yet but buy it. I didn't even see what brand. If I see him open up the package or something though with true intent on doing it, I will do something to try and put a stop to it! Whatever it takes! I don't care if police get involved. I don't want anyone to get hurt. About the guy who bought this--someone else and I don't really feel safe in the car with him, but he is a ride. Plus, we do kinda care about him. We literally have to see for him. I suspect he likes to have others in the car with him to be his eyes in case--I think, he hallucinates or some other mental issue takes over. I really think he has some dementia or something to go with it, either organic or medication-induced, I don't know. I only THINK he hallucinates because medication side effects he displays, plus he once saw a man carrying a snakeskin bag, like my purse--I looked around but there was nobody anywhere there or down the street. There have been other similar situations. And how can I forget him hitting the railroad crossing gate coming down because it didn't see it or the flashing lights?! (Not to mention the train until it was right in front of us.) I can't honestly say if he's on psych meds or not, but I am pretty sure he must be from my own medical knowledge. He has admitted have psych issues before but not said what, but he has joked about being schizophrenic. It is possible from what I know of the subject.

I can't believe the one guy had a MAJOR issue with me wanting him to tell our friend about it to keep him safe, and to not even believe me about it! Like I would make something like that up or try to fake something like that as part of a dumb practical joke?!?! I am so pissed! I really super need to vent about this! HOW could somebody dare to accuse me of saying something like that and it not be true?!?! I'm not going to lie about someone's safety! I don't want the guy to end up sick--or worse!

[madisgram]

inkblot sounds like you have done a good deed but it's now out of your control. stay safe and if you can ride with someone else i would for your own safety. sounds like this guy either has some stuff going on and perhaps a vision problem too. know it's a ride but your life is more important. walk if you have to.

[nowheretorun]

((inkblot))) caring for others is always a good idea.. you are able to understand the karmic effect of what goes around comes around and im sure you are doing all you are able to pay it forward for the driver... its a little funny, but not... ive been in a similar situation as this nearly exactly .. ive worked with the homeless in my own ways and i see exactly what you are talking about..

what i can tell you is this.... the driver has his blinders on for some reason... not intentionally necessarily, but, the blinders are still on... you come along, as a caring person, wanting to protect, and, as a caring person, you are feeling frustration that the one you are trying to help, doesnt 'get it'....

a few of us here can understand what you are saying and you feel pinned against the wall with this....

what you can do is continue speaking your truth... the 'group' needs to accept safety as a real factor within itself and protect itself.. the way this is done is by encouraging it between the members...

sometimes we have to know how much others are capable of giving...

with the homeless it is nearly always a desperate affair and those homeless groups who havent lost sight of family connections, be it with friends or genetic family, have the best chances of survival...

sometimes we need to know the safe boundaries of saving ourselves while we are trying to help others...

you, as a helper, need to stay alive.... they, as sufferers, need to get the help that is offered...

you can walk away, but you will carry your conscience with you everywhere and you are trying for a 'clear' consciousness...

trying your best goes a little ways towards freeing you and still, there are those who are suffering...

you cant fix them all... there are programs for these ones...

let others help you, just as you are trying to help others...

as individuals we can only accomplish a limited amount.. in teams, we can do more...

are there 'night-rider' type groups in your area you can turn to for help on this?

sometimes letting go and turning over the problem to those better supplied to assist is whats needed...

there are many on the streets who need this extra help....

i am hoping your community offers some type of program for these very unfortunates....

if not, we have the ability to grass-root our own causes and you can probably find help within your community... look around and if you just cant let go of the concern, try to pull a team together...

bottom line is, these guys have to care about themselves a little bit... just a little helps make your life a lot easier

hope this helps some