[Debbie07]

I went to the graduate therapy program here where I live, and I was weeded out. I'm not cut out to be a therapist, and I hated every minute of session (with me being the therapist). Before my first practicum I had taken a year of classes.

I've been to therapy before. I want to start again. (the others were not successful and the one that was actually helping me dropped me). I found someone I don't know (I've been through 8 or so therapists in the city) but she works at a therapist communal. They invented this thing where they have a huge building full of therapists. I hate it because if one doesn't work out, you have to face them when you go to another one. I prefer stand-along offices. Well, this one works there and I know a bunch of people there from when I was in school.

Session is in 3 hours and 39 minutes. Not looking forward to seeing people I know while I wait to go in (well not looking forward to any of it but you get the point ).

It's hard finding someone I haven't seen or that I don't know (and even harder finding someone who doesn't know someone I don't know). This one teaches in the same program.

Soooo... how would you handle this? The only thing left is for the person who weeded me out of the program being there now (not sure if she is). I left the program 3 years ago.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Debbie07

I went to the graduate therapy program here where I live, and I was weeded out. I'm not cut out to be a therapist, and I hated every minute of session (with me being the therapist). Before my first practicum I had taken a year of classes.

I've been to therapy before. I want to start again. (the others were not successful and the one that was actually helping me dropped me). I found someone I don't know (I've been through 8 or so therapists in the city) but she works at a therapist communal. They invented this thing where they have a huge building full of therapists. I hate it because if one doesn't work out, you have to face them when you go to another one. I prefer stand-along offices. Well, this one works there and I know a bunch of people there from when I was in school.

Session is in 3 hours and 39 minutes. Not looking forward to seeing people I know while I wait to go in (well not looking forward to any of it but you get the point ).

It's hard finding someone I haven't seen or that I don't know (and even harder finding someone who doesn't know someone I don't know). This one teaches in the same program.

Soooo... how would you handle this? The only thing left is for the person who weeded me out of the program being there now (not sure if she is). I left the program 3 years ago.

I would walk in and spot the first person I knew that made eye contact and walk over and say - fancy meeting you here gosh its been ages how you been? I do that with anybody that I know from the college that happens to walk in the crisis centers doors. they come in for the same reason I do - to either work the hot line or to attend sessions or group. we always get to talking and if they dont want anyone to know they are there they tell me you didnt see me today right and I say back right. Talking to someone I know really breaks up the waiting time nerves. Sometimes if I see someone that is more scared than I am I reach for a magazine close to them and say sorry Im Amanda and that breaks the ice with them too.

[(JD)]

It sounds like a very tough decision to make. I'm hoping you will see someone though. If you were "weeded out" of the program and you tend to agree that being a T wasn't what you should be...what of it? We all try things that don't work out. It doesn't make you a failure.

I think how you felt about the person when you were with them, how they spoke to you and about people would help you determine if you could maybe be helped by her, rather than the fact that she is the one who had to tell you about not being right for the profession (at the time.)

Therapists should not be discussing people among themselves unless it is in the therapeutic range (not personal gossip type talk.) You need to be sure whomever you see will keep confidence, and to find that out you can tell them at the beginning.

It isn't permanent is it? You can always try her as a therapist and if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. So what? Then you still try another. But IDK what type of therapy you are trying that a session is soooo very long. It could be you need to try a different type of therapy.

Good wishes.

[Debbie07]

This one is not the one that weeded me out. I've never met this one. She works at a place full of therapists I knew from school. I was just saying the only thing left to happen would be for the person that weeded me out to now work there

[(JD)]

Oh ok. It's anxiety that's giving you the business right now then? Make a call. You can always change your mind.