[jawz40]

I have been in this relationship for 2 years .. What a mess I have become... Every time he gets mad at me he dissapears for hours when he dose come home he wont talk to me for days .. Every thing is always me..I m always the one who is wrong and has to say Iam sorry or he has nothing to do with me.. And if I wait a few day or try to talk to him, he tells me I have to get out or he breaks my stuff... What is wrong with me...
I know I need to go .. Move on but I stay.. I am 40 years old.. I was married to a man for 15 years and left because I was not happy and he was never like this at
all .. Why am I still here after only 2 years and most of it all the same way.. I got the book men who hate woman and the woman who love them.. Not helping me .. Can someone tell me what the hell I am doing? <font color="red"> </font>

you need help...soon....find a therapist if you don't already have one. i have to go to work....but keep us posted. pat

[jawz40]

thank you pat for your help.. no ,I have no theripist and they cost money to see... He came in tonight mad at me he had been gone 8 hours ..Drunk and nasty I never thought I would be in this mess. I wont even begin to repeat the garbage he said to me..Just know when he was done saying it I felt sick..I make myself sick to be who I have become...

Hun, I'm sorry that you're having to suffer like this. After years of living with this kind of abuse it tends to become the norm, and breaking away from your norm can be a scarry thing. My best advise is to get out now. Stay with family or friends until you can get back on your feet. I know we don't know each other yet but I want you to know that no one EVER deserves this kind of treatment... not ever. It makes me sick that this kind of thing happens. Is there anyone you can stay with? You need to have a place that's safe where you can start to heal from everything you're had to endure. Keep us posted. The people in this community are such wonderful people and we'll support you every step of the way in any way we can. Take good care of yourself and be safe. My heart and prayers go out to you.

ryan

[sqrlb8]

You are a battered spouse.

You get out by finding the Battered Women's Support group in your area. They are everywhere. Any crisis line will have a number for you to call. They will help you identify your options and maintain your safety. The groups are free and will be your greatest resource in this process. You need their help.

Good luck.

[nothemama8]

Having been in the same place as you many many years ago, I'am telling you to run to the nearest Woman's Abuse safe house as fast as you can, get out before he starts breaking you, books are not going to change the problem
Angie