[panda31]

Hi, I am a 26 year old female whose boyfriend is diagnosed with depression which i believe is major. We have been together for 8 months now. i love him with all my heart and at a stage where i will do everything not to lose him. I am medically inclined by profession which i believe can be the cause of a very open mind. I can understand everything about him. Recently he ran out of meds and broke up with me. The past 8 months was beautiful. He would have occasional episodes but never lasted and didn't seem serious as we are having right now. He made me feel loved and cared for. But he never said it for the fear of breaking it. By this, you could tell he is an amazing guy. I always felt I was his priority. He stopped hanging out with friends for me. He was always there whenever I needed him and he never made me feel taken advantaged of... Even now that he is breaking up with me I still trust it is his depression talking and not him. He claims he can't feel anything which devastates me more. I refuse to believe there's absolutely nothing there because of the things we have done and enjoyed together. He always picks me up on the weekends, and he seemed fine and I didn't see this coming. I asked him the reason for the break up and he said he just doesn't feel anything and that he doens't want me to waste my time. Since then he has always been supportive.. Being there whenever I need to talk about it. When I ask if he wants me to disappear he doesn't cuz I'm a "great friend." I wouldn't wanna leave him either. First because I love him, Second I don't want him to be alone when he decides to be alone for the rest of his life (which he is thinking right now) and third, I would rather wait for him than quit too soon. I told him he can do whatever he wants, and that i will always be here no matter what I am to him... I am writing to ask for advice on how to help him and take care of myself at the same time... Thank you for having the patience to read this...

[CedarS]

I think your priority has to be taking good care of yourself.

You say he stopped hanging out with his friends for you, maybe he needs to include his friends in his life again. You can be a friend. Maybe he isn't able to have a love interest in his life right now.

Has he renewed his meds? Is he in therapy?

What can you do to keep yourself happily occupied?

[panda31]

Originally Posted by CedarS

I think your priority has to be taking good care of yourself.

You say he stopped hanging out with his friends for you, maybe he needs to include his friends in his life again. You can be a friend. Maybe he isn't able to have a love interest in his life right now.

Has he renewed his meds? Is he in therapy?
What can you do to keep yourself happily occupied?

I am having a hard time but I can say

[panda31]

I am trying so hard to get it all off, by being very optimistic about this. He did stop because we had a habit of being together for the weekend. Up until now, he spends his weekends with me...

I asked him if he has renewed his meds or is planning to to go his psychiatrist and he says no... I think he's given up on therapy, he says he can't feel anything.

I am getting on with myself just because he's still by my side, and if ever he decides on getting rid of me completely that's when I don't know what I'm gonna do. All of these isn't making me happy at all, i am just hoping he feels better in the long run and decides he wants this... I read and go out to keep myself occupied...