[eka93]

I am in a relationship with a 22 year old guy, he is going through hard times and has had some bad past experiences. He is the father of a 1 year old daughter who was a surprise for him and his ex girlfriend. she cheated on him and because he has a fear of losing people he lost it and while he was in one of his hazes he hit her. he was put in jail for a week and almost died because he just couldnt handle it. after his release he signed up for domestic violence classes and is trying to arange for joint custody of his daughter who he hasnt seen in months. through out this whole thing i have been with him, form the past attempts at suiccide to when he lost all his friends after his jail inciddent. he has no one else to confide in and im the only one who can make him laugh, like really laugh. now he is pushing me out of his life and saying he is sick of everything and ho he has nothing left and should just end it now. i tried to reason with him but he is now ignoring me after once again, threatining to kill himself. i know he has had problems in the past and isnt having the best time now either. i really do love him, and im willing to accept him for who he is and what he wants to be. i support his dreams to write music and he has even started talking marrige and family with me......how do i help him? is it best to step back and give him space or to keep trying? cause i dont want him to do anything stupid, but i also dont wanna make him mad and have him push me away even more...

[melancholy65]

Originally Posted by eka93

I am in a relationship with a 22 year old guy, he is going through hard times and has had some bad past experiences. He is the father of a 1 year old daughter who was a surprise for him and his ex girlfriend. she cheated on him and because he has a fear of losing people he lost it and while he was in one of his hazes he hit her. he was put in jail for a week and almost died because he just couldnt handle it. after his release he signed up for domestic violence classes and is trying to arange for joint custody of his daughter who he hasnt seen in months. through out this whole thing i have been with him, form the past attempts at suiccide to when he lost all his friends after his jail inciddent. he has no one else to confide in and im the only one who can make him laugh, like really laugh. now he is pushing me out of his life and saying he is sick of everything and ho he has nothing left and should just end it now. i tried to reason with him but he is now ignoring me after once again, threatining to kill himself. i know he has had problems in the past and isnt having the best time now either. i really do love him, and im willing to accept him for who he is and what he wants to be. i support his dreams to write music and he has even started talking marrige and family with me......how do i help him? is it best to step back and give him space or to keep trying? cause i dont want him to do anything stupid, but i also dont wanna make him mad and have him push me away even more...

I know you care for him...but you must care more about yourself. You are way too young..I am assuming early 20's or younger....than to have to deal with any of this. It is a no where road for you. You should be focusing on YOUR life and meeting lots of interesting healthy people and having fun! If you stay around this you will be dragged along with him. Maybe all you can do is find some help for him...but you are NOT the help hon. Go get you own fantastic awesome life.