[frostinsummer]

Hello, I'm new here and this is my first post. Five months ago I started getting Texting and old friend from high school that I found on facebook. I am a forty-three yr old black female and he is forty-two.well, we talked on and off for a while before we decided to hook up. I have to admit,he would say strange things sometimes,but nothing to make me think he had mental illness. I knew he didn't want to take me out and I thought he was cheap.so we met a couple of times and just talked. Anyway five months down the line we became closer and I finally decided it was ok to have sex. As soon as that happened I found out he was dating or at least seeing other women. I also realized his mental state wasn't the best when I confronted him. As he became delusion and told me he gave me a secret during sex. Well I was shocked and backed away for a little while and he seemed ok. But by then I had already start to have strong feelings for him and I think he might feel the same. The problem is, I don't know if it makes since to be in love its this man. He is sweet and fun to be around but us delusional about quite a few things. I know he is on medication and he has told me without it he would be lost. Someone please help me understand how to have this relationship work if that's possible. I love him, but I'm afraid of the type future we might have.

[mokie]

Hi! I am schizoaffective and am lucky to have a loving husband which I have known since I was 13 and now 40. You must know it is a challange to be with someone who has a MI but we are still worth it. You will need to be open and honest with him. He needs to stay on meds and knowledge in this is very important not only to him but to you if you plan to stay. I recommend a book called Loving someone with bipolar disorder. This is one of the few books that helped me have a better understanding of myself and helped my communication with my husband. There is exercises you can do together to help each other in this journey. This illness is not cureable but treatable to be stable. Wish you luck on your decision.