[tinat8245]

Wow – I’m so impressed by this site! So much great information! I’m just realizing that my whole family has strong Borderline Personality Disorder traits. It’s incredibly hard for me to admit this since I’m not one to complain about most things. But I’m trying to understand them and not resent them for their actions. I feel it may be better to move out first to gain perspective? Don’t know.. So confused. They need me to care for them but I’m not able to continue being their emotional punching bag. I just read a great book called “What’s Wrong with your Dad?” - wow. Can we just say wow? It was like Kris got into my world and described my family’s behavior. However this book is more of a memoir so doesn’t have all the technical jargon that other BPD books have. Hope this book helps others. Any suggestions on what I should do about my family situation?

[Jannaku]

Hi there. Not sure exactly what your situation is but glad to hear that you have received some insight via the book you've read. Family can be difficult despite the fact that we love them they can push us to the limit. Do whatever you feel is the best thing for YOU. If you feel that your being dragged down by the BPDs in your life and not strong enough to cope with all that they dish out then maybe removing yourself from the immediate environment may be a good idea. At least that way you'll have ME time and a sense of self. You said they need you to care for them = you may be suprised to realise that you are not as indespensible as you think and that they would be able to cope fairly well without you and if not you can still provide care from outside. As I said, don't know the full story so difficult to advise you. It's great to see that your trying to learn more about your situation. Keep up the good work