[BDPpartner]

After a christmas day from hell Mr bdppartner is in hospital. After a night of little sleep and him ranting I lost it and screamed and shouted back at him, he then fled the house and after 90mins of suicidal texts that became incoherant I had to inform the police department. After searching our bedroom for clues, reading every text on my phone and 5 visits to the house; 4 hrs later he was found having had a hysterical melt down in the middle of a shopping mall. The paramedics couldn't hold him against his wishes but the police detained him and he was escorted to a secure hospital. It then took another 4hrs for then to assess him and finally make the decision that although he actively admitted he planned to end his life upon leaving they wouldn't keep him against his will. But they did agree he needed to be there so i had to beg him to stay there for a bit of time to consider his plan of action. I'm so relieved that I can sleep easy for one night, but don't know what i'll do if he's still determined that it's his time. Any advise ?

[Jannaku]

OMG try and get him to stay there as long as possible he needs treatment. Not only is he a threat to you he is a threat to himself. The safest place for him at the moment is in hospital. All the best.

[BDPpartner]

He's still in hospital and i'm reassured by a fleeting visit to drop him in some clothes and home comforts; the doors are locked and the staff make regular checks. However it seems they're wanting to move him closer to home, at the mo were at my parents. But trying to get answers is like getting the proverbial blood from a stone, but he's safe tonight so i can sleep a little easier. 'ONE DAY AT A TIME'

[Pandora'sBox]

I think you're right - just one day at a time. It must be extremely stressful for you. Remember to take care of yourself as well. You won't be able to help him if you're not looking after you as well.

I hope he feels a little better when he gets out.

[BDPpartner]

he's home, they've got a bad virus going round the facility of 18 patients only 4 were unaffected and the staff were dropping like flies; so when he told them he'd like to go home they nearly bite his hand off. I'd have liked him to have stayed a bit longer he still seems off 'for him' and i'm terrified that it'll only take a wrong word and i'll trigger him off

[Pandora'sBox]

apparently 'stop walking on egg shells' can be good for family/friends of those with BPD.

*hugs*