[Lunariel7]

Hiya. I have BPD. My husband probably has NPD. We've been married for almost 3 years. It's been quite rocky, but we are both determined to tough it out together.

What are the pros and cons of a woman with BPD being married to a man with NPD?

[NWgirl2013]

Uh boy ... it just makes it harder. But not hopeless.

If you start with the knowledge of the disorders, that is a good thing. Getting treated, with therapy or meds or whatever, I would also consider couples therapy with a counselor who understands both of your diagnosis. That would give you tools you can take into your relationship to give it tune-up and keep it running smoother, for the long haul.
Being committed is a huge blessing & confidence booster for both of you!

I wish you both the best in this ...

[Swabbingred]

A lot of people will think it but not say it.

Pros?
None.

Cons?
Lots.

On a predatory level; this is totally unstable.

[foundthecure]

there is a 90% divorce rate in couples where one partner has BPD
I am one of the statistics now.. my exwife has BPD

my father has NPD... I dont know how my mother has put up with him... and i've seen both sides.

you're already married so it's too late to be weighing up the pros and cons.

[idontknow247]

Please get treatment, do not have children, and if you already have- get them help as well, asap!

Why I say this? My father is NPD and mother BPD, both untreated. Nightmare. and wreckage.

My T says it's a common, fatal-attraction like pairing.

Why the determination to 'tough it out?'...just curious to your thoughts around it a bit more- is your husband aware of his NPD?