Can he turn violent?

I have posted shortly in the newbie section.

I am in the process of getting divorced from somebody that I have come to believe should have a cluster B diagnosis. I am not a professional and therefore not able to tell which "label" to put on him. My own therapist tells me that it sounds as if my ex. has strong psychopathic traits. I think the same but there is something else - probably Narcissism as he is not able to be alone for very long and he likes to be admired when telling exotic stories. He needs friends/people around him all the time. Again - I am not an expert but I have been living with the man for many years.

He is highly intelligent and has never been violent towards anybody. Never been to jail or the like. Can that change? If I get too annoying or behave differently than he is used to. I am now setting some very visibly boundaries and I know that I am annoying him.

Btw. I appreciate any input from anybody NT or not.

Why would you think he might become violent? Has he shown any behaviours that indicate that he might?While it can be possible for almost anyone to become violent if they are pushed, including nacissists, not all do. I would be watching his behaviour more than looking at the diagnosis (or lack of). Has there been anything that has made you afraid he might hurt you? There is a big difference between getting annoyed and becoming angry enough to become violent.

The most important thing is keeping yourself safe. If you think there are signs that he is becoming violent then make sure you get out and care for yourself.

Anyone can become violent at any point.

But, the best predictor of future violence is past violence. Then again, that doesn't mean other methods of coercion, such as manipulation, can't be as effective as physical force.

I feel I hear where you are coming from. As one starts to make changes and assert themselves, the fear of what is to come, can be unnerving.

Has he ever broken furniture, fists through wall, etc? before?