Does Anyone Have A Name to this Disorder?

Hi Everyone,

I don't know what to do. I can't seem to find the answers online so I'm hoping someone here could help me out.

I would like to know what's wrong with my mom. Ever since something heavy crashed on her head more than 10 years ago, she's been not her self:

1. She absorbs everything there is about the end of the world, watches every conspiracy theory there is on youtube, and has become a doomsday prepper. She thinks that her phone could be tapped, and that anything you do online or on your phone is probably being watched, so she takes every precaution to not be watched. Yet she uses her phone still, just not certain apps or certain browsers--the one she thinks are notorious for tapping into people's lives.

2. She hasn't worked since the accident and finds any excuse why she shouldn't work. She'll try for a few days then finds a "problem" that justifies her not working.

3. She has no guilt in asking us to spend for her when she knows we are struggling financially ourselves. It's like she thinks we are made of money.

4. She also doesn't feel guilty spending my dad's money even though he's the only bread winner now that we're gone out of the house. She keeps decorating the house like she's about to be on some magazine for beautiful homes.

5. She is obsessed with looking at Facebook and finding the "sins" of what other people have. She finds fault in everyone else but herself.

6. She is scared of everything that may happen. Before the accident she used to be adventurous, and then after that when we pay for her to go on a family vacation with us, she finds everything wrong as to where we are going: from the weather, to muggings, name any harmful thing she'll find it about the place. However, she'll fantasize about going on trips--just not when it finally actually happens.

7. She has a short fuse, guilt-trips everyone for not getting her way, and when you fight back and tell her what's on your mind as to what she's been doing, she doesn't understand anything you're saying--like she has not done anything wrong and that everyone is always against her. Then she goes in her room, cries like a banshee and talks to herself, let me rephrase that, she's screaming at everyone as if they were in the room with her.

8. She refuses to seek medical attention for her other knee because she thinks that the surgery will complicate things and she will die. As if she didn't have surgery on her other knee before and everything went perfectly fine then. It's almost as if she wants to be miserable health-wise so she doesn't have to do anything like living. Which brings me to, she does not want to diet and eat healthy to make herself better. She nods her head and say "yes, yes I'll do it", but she doesn't. Or if she does, it'll last just a few days.

9. She always says her brain is deteriorating and that her memory and sharpness isn't what it once were. But it's not true because I paid for her to take classes so she can have something on her resume again, and when she was there for the few weeks (before she found something wrong with the class to make her quit), she was at the top of her class that people thought she was someone who had been working in the information technology industry for years. A note about my mom: She has a brain of a genius. She has never failed any exam, and she hardly studies. More like she skims through pages, and she remembers what was written. I've always admired this about her. So, no, her brain isn't deteriorating, she just wants to not do anything.

10. She pushes people away. But at the same time she wants to know what everyone is doing. On the outside, people think she's gregarious and friendly and gives advice and listens to what people say, but in reality she doesn't want those same people coming to her house. She gets really anxious when people come over because she wants to be alone. And she also wants perfection in her cleanliness and decoration. So basically she has all this award-winning design that she did in her own home, but she doesn't want people to come over, but she wants the accolades of her design.

11. She gets jealous of you do anything with other people, especially if you do things with them that you've never done with her.

12. She remembers every single bad thing that happened to her and she doesn't stop talking about it. Granted, the people who did her wrong did her really wrong. And I don't like what they did to her either and I don't like them. But I don't dwell in constantly reliving the pain and hatred that never stops with her.

13. She always talks about how she can't wait to go to heaven and all the doom and gloom like the world is supposed to end really soon. But then she's scared of anything that could harm her.

She's a contradiction.

She wasn't like this before. She used to be hard working and happy. Now, it's like every negative thinking and trauma came out of the woodwork and it's staying for good.

Please help, we are at our wits end. Our dad who doesn't want trouble always makes us walk on egg shells with her. We're always the one asking for forgiveness from her when she's the one who is at fault. She never apologizes. And it's like the world is supposed to revolve around her. What is this condition she has? Is there a name to it so I could at least study and learn what other people are going through?

Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. No one here can diagnose her, but I think it would be good for you, at the least to see a counselor to help you walk through different options for dealing with the problem.

It is very possible that a hit on the wad could trigger a chemical imbalance. Medications are also known to do it. If there's anyway she'll go to a counsellor, a GP or a Psychatrist to discuss what's going on it would help. She will likely be afraid to go and maybe afraid of the medications. Telling her that she doesn't have to take medications and she is in control might help her walk through the door. There is hope! And it makes recovery and coping much easier if you can get that diagnosis. Very best of luck and lots of hugs.

Thank you pink&grey. That's exactly what I fear could happen is she would likely be afraid to go as she doesn't trust therapy or anyone getting inside her head. But thank you I'll definitely go to a counselor and see what needs to be done.

Wow Man, that sounds almost exactly like my wife during these....Phases.

I've never found anyone or any neurologist who could help me put a name to it, but I think that it has something to do with personality and types of intelligence.

I've always thought that there should be a questions and answers test out their that could "categorize psychological disorders based upon the given answers but I've never found one I believe Narcissism has something to do with why they behave the way they do, it's like they are unable to "empathize" or see things from another person's point of view AT ALL.

Sorry I don't have anything more than that, I'm looking too. Please let me know if you do find something on this. When she get's like this it KILLs me.

Good Luck Friend,
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