[pjsam1156]

Long story, as short as I can make it: ADHD son, almost 21. Graduated w/honors from high school. Currently pursuing degree at Michigan State. Has flunked or almost flunked one class each semester thus far. Takes make-up classes online every summer and gets As. He has a job on campus which has never been a problem before. He has never missed work and rarely misses classes up until now.

This semester, he is flunking 3 classes because of not doing the work required. He has never done this before. The worst he would do is not study well enough for an exam. He has always handed in papers and assignments. He says he is depressed. He is not taking his meds because his appetite disappears and he "loses his personality." I am asking advice regarding whether or not A) we should take him out of school and bring him home for community college, and B) should I get him to the doctor to make sure he doesn't need antidepressants? I am very upset and just don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Have him complete a a year of classes or how ever "college" works and then make him take a break. It's what I was doing for my last semester of high school but recently I quit a class so I won't be graduating due to too much procrastinating (depression - had to leave school for a while last year). He reminds me of myself as I have that diagnosis. Except I don't hand in assignments and that :/.

No one should have to go through with such boring classes for 4 years. He seems to be working really hard.

Antidepressants won't make him feel better. For most people they just don't make them feel at all. So you can get through the classes because you'll be numb. The same as how ADHD meds work. He might not have the motivation still.

If he isn't having fun on the side then that would be the obvious reason that he's depressed. No one wants to study all the god damn time and then go home and study so you can wake up in the morning again to study

[pjsam1156]

Originally Posted by Alonewithmycat

Have him complete a a year of classes or how ever "college" works and then make him take a break. It's what I was doing for my last semester of high school but recently I quit a class so I won't be graduating due to too much procrastinating (depression - had to leave school for a while last year). He reminds me of myself as I have that diagnosis. Except I don't hand in assignments and that :/.

No one should have to go through with such boring classes for 4 years. He seems to be working really hard.

Antidepressants won't make him feel better. For most people they just don't make them feel at all. So you can get through the classes because you'll be numb. The same as how ADHD meds work. He might not have the motivation still.

If he isn't having fun on the side then that would be the obvious reason that he's depressed. No one wants to study all the god damn time and then go home and study so you can wake up in the morning again to study

Thanks SO MUCH for your help. I really am trying to find out the best thing to do for him. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your help--especially when you've been through the same situation.