[witts end]

my son was diagnosed a few years ago. He owns his own home but for stability lives with my Husband ,myself and two siblings. He is on meds but I'm never sure if he is taking them properly. Our understanding was keep the house cleaned up (dishes and vacuum)for contributing to the home. He recently qualified for SSI so he has some income, he also rents out his house to meet the mortgage. It was good for a while. I bring up the JOB subject only to be met with nothing. He was going to go back to college but he needs a reference letter from his psych and PO. That never happen.He has tried to commit suicide in the past so now feel like an emotional hostage. I'm afraid to push to hard . I don't want to send him over the edge. Now the cleaning has gone by the way side and the dishes are done occasionally. I'm at my witts end. He sleeps lhalf the day and up late at night. My husband and I work as does his sibling and the other is still in school!!!! What do I do!

[hamstay]

Curious? what is his dx?
And perhaps some 'tough love'?
I wonder about his house being rented, does he have much to do with this, ie if he himself is able to organise this, and not able to work/study. Does he have some other kind of interest? Also, the stability you mentioned?
Had he lived previously on his own?
You say an understanding, I would think perhaps it could be more a 'condition'!!
And the fact that he gets SSI, I think that ought to go to you for his keeping!
One thing for sure is, keeping the 'balance' for you, your husband, and the other siblings. As in, that's four people. Ie, IMO, four people ought not sacrifice themselves for one.
All the best

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[Victoria'smom]

How old is your son?
What's his DX?
If he is an adult you can't make him take his meds.
"for stability"- I need more information about why he can't live on his own?
SSI- is for people that are unable to work
"reference letter from his psych and PO. That never happen"- I tried to get a reference letter from my therapist or psychiatrist but both told me no maybe next semester. That was 2 years ago.

I would charge him rent a fifth of all the bills and hire a cleaning person with that money. It sounds like he's depressed. I would require him to go to a partial hospitalization program, medicaid pays for it. That way he's getting help and improving for 4+ hours a day, getting up and staying awake, getting group and individual therapy, and taking adjusting his medication to be functional.