[krisakira]

I think it's kind of mild but she says she has narcissistic personality disorder. I can see some traits of it though. She can't take criticism or hearing anything negative at all about herself. The way I get around it is just by not saying anything mean to her, even if I'm not being honest with her. I would rather lie than get her upset. I think deep down she really is critical of herself, but holds herself to a high expectation. Is there any way I can help her feel better about herself instead of just feeding her disorder? We both like music so that's what we talk about. She talks about herself a lot but thats ok because I don't talk much anyway. There's more about her but I don't really want to get into all the bad details about her because even though she is not around to read it, I still feel bad saying anything mean about her cause she really is one of my best friends. We met at a psych ward and clicked ever since. She lives in another state now and I miss her. She calls me sometimes, and sometimes I call her. I just feel like I'm walking on eggshells making sure I don't say anything wrong to her. Is there any advice someone can give me about making this work better?

[Travelinglady]

Hey. My mom had this disorder and all I can say is as a child and into adulthood my life with her was miserable. I certainly did not know how to deal with her. However, there are some resources available. Here is just one link I found on the internet--and there are others: How to Deal With a Narcissistic Personality | LIVESTRONG.COM.

I hope this article gives you a start, anyway.

[krisakira]

Thats why I think it is mild because I'm still able to be her friend, and it not be miserable or anything.

[Travelinglady]

Yeah, I think so. My mom also had some borderline qualities, too, which made things worse.