[Annie31]

I'm new and reached out because I'm bewildered and fed-up.
How can my bipolar daughter have enough energy to go and smoke regularly, remember all her TV programmes, play games on her mobile endlessly, but have no energy to do chores around the house?

[Skeezyks]

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[ReptileInYourHead]

Hey Annie.
Has your daughter been professionally diagnosed? On meds?

[Annie31]

Originally Posted by ReptileInYourHead

Hey Annie.
Has your daughter been professionally diagnosed? On meds?

Yes, she has. She's got a history of instability which includes 1 suicide attempt ( she cut her wrist deep, and then called me on my mobile to get help.That was 8 years ago.)
She and her two young daughters are living with me now. Frankly, I don't think I can cope with her presence in my house anymore. In the beginning she blatantly instigated the kids against me. It was so bad that it took about 6 months for the 12 year old to be less hostile towards me. My daughter is struggling to get a job, so she sits around most of the day. TV, games on her mobile and reading. If she is so depressed, why can she still enjoy those activities?

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by Annie31

I'm new and reached out because I'm bewildered and fed-up.
How can my bipolar daughter have enough energy to go and smoke regularly, remember all her TV programmes, play games on her mobile endlessly, but have no energy to do chores around the house?

Because she can?

[conchuot]

Hi Annie31 and welcome. A newcomer myself, I can't address your daughters diagnosis because I've more than got my hands full just learning about my SO issues. What I can speak to is given the scenario with the 12 year old, your immediate responsibility would be to protect those little ones. I had a similar circumstance in my situation with DESR and ADHD, the salient point being the Dysfunctional Emotions. The oldest had an inappropriate hysterical response and was removed from the home. The entire situation changed for the better albeit far from good and healthy. Six months later she reentered the picture and I was given the boot. The reports I get from others is that it is back to the utterly dysfunctional household that existed before. With this particular set of diagnoses, my understanding is that one outside the situation is just what is needed. Read this from Theravive " A thorough medical and educational history is necessary to make a proper diagnosis. It is helpful to have parents, siblings or others report on their observations, as people with ADHD tend to forget or normalize their behavior." So for you as being the "other parent" I would suggest you get incite from someone who can evaluate the whole situation. The lives of the young ones are at stake.

[Erebos]

As you will see plenty of people here have BP and work very hard to maintain a normal and healthy and family.

Your daughter is acting like ANY kid will do given if they are allowed. What I mean is this isn't just her BP its her attitude.
Your responsibility is to those children to young to care for themselves.
If she is of age, it's time for her to stand on her own two feet.

I have 20 year old who was only allowed to continue living at home if she went to uni, and got a job.
She also has mood disorder, but the fact is the world won't pick up after her nor does it owe her a living. I was always very firm on this. And much as she moans, she does it.
I don't pay for her phone or her internet, if she wants these things she has to pay for them herself. I request money to go towards bills and food just like she would have to anywhere else. I do not charge her rent. That's my compromise.

[Hobbit House]

Originally Posted by Erebos

As you will see plenty of people here have BP and work very hard to maintain a normal and healthy and family.

Your daughter is acting like ANY kid will do given if they are allowed. What I mean is this isn't just her BP its her attitude.
Your responsibility is to those children to young to care for themselves.
If she is of age, it's time for her to stand on her own two feet.

I have 20 year old who was only allowed to continue living at home if she went to uni, and got a job.
She also has mood disorder, but the fact is the world won't pick up after her nor does it owe her a living. I was always very firm on this. And much as she moans, she does it.

I know it's hard but you need to help her become independent. If that takes some tough love then so be it. I am not advocating throwing her and her daughters out but simply informing her it's your home and your rules. Good luck.

[Mygrandjourney]

Check this article out:

https://www.loveandlogic.com/article...-to-get-a-life