[worried11]

My fiance is suffering from depression for the past 3 months. I am trying hard to make him happy. He is on medication now but it doesn't look like its working. He is also suffering from sleep paralysis. Could it be a side effect of the medication? Depression is a very new thing to me and I really want to make him better. If anyone has any suggestions I would be grateful. It looks to me like he is suffering from severe depression. He gets suicidal thoughts sometimes. And he fights with me a lot now. I keep quiet because I noe he is feeling down. I just want him to be ok. The problem is he needs me, but I cannot be there for him always because we are from orthodox Hindu families and they oppose our relation. I do not get to spend much time with him as a result. I try to do all I can though. I want to get married but I'm worried that it will affect him adversely. Our families won't accept the marriage and I donot want added pressure on him. Any tips?

[glok]

Hello, worried11. Your fiance should be talking to his treatment team to let them know changes need to be made. You can be supportive but he must do the work to get better. Unless he does, you may be wise to be concerned about what life would be like with him.

[worried11]

Hello Glok, Thanks for the advice. I shall talk to my fiance. Whatever happens I will not leave him. I love him and we have been together a long long time. And u can say the depression is indirectly because of me. He used to worry a lot about our future, especially the financial part. He was also worried about the reaction of our parents, and all. I feel so guilty for that. And I'm determined to make him ok. Thanks a lot!

[Bleeding_heart]

Worried11, glok's feedback seems on the money! Before making any long term decisions, it would be a good idea to seek some professional help. Your boyfriend made a good start by pursuing it himself but you seem to be taking on a lot and may need some support yourself. Sharing a life with someone who has a chronic mental health issue is no easy feat, especially when you appear to take on so much of the responsibility for his condition!

[worried11]

Hi bleeding heart, thanks for the tip. My fiance went to a psychologist and a psychiatrist as well. He prefers the psychiatric treatment. His medicines keep him ok. He doesn't have any feelings of desire, but he is able to get through the day. My biggest worry now is the sleep paralysis he is getting. Any idea about that? I realize its gonna be hard, but I will make him better. He is everything for me and I cannot let him go through so much. And he is happy when he is with me. We do have fights now, especially because of his mood swings. But it calms down. I don't prolong it. The thing is, all this is new to me. I have never dealt with such things before. I'm trying my best though and I hope he becomes ok soon.