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Feb 25, 2007, 02:41 PM
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When someone we are emotionally invested in in some way (good or "bad") won't/can't/refuses to change (to our desired specifications
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Feb 25, 2007, 03:00 PM
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Right. We are only responsible for our own actions, our own decisions. Now if that other person really won't change, then we do have to change our attitude or our association with them, or else we end up worse off. ((hugs))
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Feb 25, 2007, 03:20 PM
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I agree with Sky, Sweety. We can't change others. We can only change ourselves. We can't be responsible for other's actions, only our own.
If others don't see the error of their ways, then it's up to us to do what it takes to protect ourselves. That can mean installing a "shield" so that their actions and comments don't get through... or, simply not associating with them any more. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Fuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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