[ana71798]

I am 23 and my sister is 30. She meets every criteria for ASPD. She lies constantly (even about things that can easily be disproven), she has no goals for herself and can't hold down a job, she constantly tries to manipulate others around her, and frequently breaks the law or hurts the people close to her without remorse.

Last April, she stole my social security card and began opening credit cards and accounts in my name. She has stolen from my parents on countless occasions along with several other transgressions that have affected me personally.

I guess I hit the last straw at that point. I stopped talking to her, just shut her out completely. I had to file a police report and take care of repairing my credit. She moved across the country to my brother's, but inevitably came back after stealing from and attempting to manipulate him.

I have not seen or spoken to her. I know she tried to make herself look like the victim when it all happened and showed zero interest in how she affected my life at all.

I guess I'm just looking for opinions from those who are suffering/in recovery about how I should handle my relationship with her. She is diagnosed but not seeking treatment.

Hello ana: Welcome to PsychCentral. PC is a great place to gain support, learn strategies for handling mental health concerns, & to make internet friends. There are many wonderfully supportive members here on PsychCentral.

As for your sister, my personal opinion is that you did the right thing when you shut her out. She's 30 years old. She has a diagnosed mental illness but it sounds as though she refuses treatment. There's only so much you can do. She lies, she steals, she's apparently come close to wreaking your credit. My personal opinion is there is only so much one can be expected to take.

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[Atypical_Disaster]

I don't want to sound too harsh but from the sounds of it you need to break it off with her completely. She's not going to change. People with ASPD don't respond to treatment even if they receive it(and it's usually forced upon them).