[myuser3131]

I been dating my girlfriend for, let's say, around two months. We've been in a long distance relationship. Though we only known each other, we become quickly close. Anyways, Lately, maybe for a month, she's been having a "mood swings". Maybe one of the reason is because of her parents always yells at her, and lately she decided not to associate with her school friends any longer. Which she said, she was fine and doesn't give a f. which i'm not really sure.

one more piece of information, she's been cutting i notice, it's not a deep cut.

She's always i guess over thinking on everything, like today she went to bed and say that she's going to think for 10 minute and then go to sleep. but then she told me, she 'accidentally' hit her head few times, which i found out that was a total lie, bcs she intentionally do that.

Honestly, i, myself, i'm not sure if i have depression, but I am diagnosed with selective mutism, anxiety disorder, at some point in life, i did cut.

but as for my girlfriend, i'm not sure if she is really have depression, since it doesn't seem to be clear. oh, and her friends also cuts, anyways shes a high schooler like me, shes 15 years old, the same as me.

I honestly sometimes don't know how to tell the difference between people who actually have depression and don't.

I want to help her and give her a good advice.
Should i talk and tell her to go to a therapist?

even if thats the case, What can i do for her? i want to help her as much as possible.

[kaliope]

hi myuser
this is an awful lot to deal with at 15. it does not matter if she has depression or not, she clearly has something going on if she is harming herself. talking to her about how concerned you are about her and asking her to talk to her school counselor or parents about what is going on would be the best way to go. keep encouraging her until she listens. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[myuser3131]

Originally Posted by kaliope

hi myuser
this is an awful lot to deal with at 15. it does not matter if she has depression or not, she clearly has something going on if she is harming herself. talking to her about how concerned you are about her and asking her to talk to her school counselor or parents about what is going on would be the best way to go. keep encouraging her until she listens. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

Thank you. I'm very worried so, I think I might as well do that.

[healingme4me]

^^Ditto

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[goldenguru]

She's crying for help. Encourage her to find it. A school counselor - or her parents should be able to point her in the right direction. You're a good friend.

[Ruftin]

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She needs help and is lucky to have someone like you to point her in that direction.

I look forward to seeing you around!!!

[myuser3131]

Lately every, at the end of the day she's always ended up being depressed. The thing she said "No I've got so much things on mind and I can't think straight and it's making depressed so I'm gonna cry it off. I don't want things to turn out like yesterday" .

I told her to tell her counselor or anyone, but she refuse. She said she's gonna be more stress out

[Lheart]

If she's not willing to talk to a counsellor, how about suggesting other forms of therapy? When I was your age I found talking things out to be much harder than it is for me now. I was in art therapy, and I found it helpful. It was fun, relaxing, and even if I'm not very artistic it created an outlet for me. I've also heard of drama therapy... My fiancé has C-PTSD and is also a stage actor, and he says that the act of stepping out of his mind into a role provides him with an immense relief and has been one of the best things for his mental health.

I hope that's helpful. My teenage years were my most difficult so I can definitely understand. Good luck to you, your girlfriend is lucky to have such a caring person!

[waggiedog]

Bless you myuser, for your are a true friend indeed. As other members have stated, you're very young to be shouldering your special friends hardships BUT, your loyality isn't going to waste and it's obviously much needed.

All you can continue to do is be there, difficult as it surely can be. Your friend trusts you or she'd never share her innermost thoughts, even though she sometimes needs to ''go off to think it out''. However the both of you really can't do this alone so could your friend, or the both of you approach a 'professional' person, a GP or therapist maybe. I DO understand self harm as I too fall back on this, but it's become less and less with the help of meds and various therapy. So, don't dispeare, there's much help out there.

I wish you both love and understanding, but you already have that crucial ingredient!!