[spitzdog]

3 weeks ago a friend and I got into an argument over the phone He told me that after he finished speaking, there is a pause from me which he finds annoying ( I am shy and was thinking of what to say next). Frustrated with myself, I said " I don't know why I do this sh**. I told him I wasn't angry at him but frustrated with my shyness while I talk on the phone. He kept on asking me if I was really angry at him and I told him no. Then we started talking like normal, but at the end of the conversation, he told me that he was upset and couldn't let what I said go, and that during our conversation he felt like shouting at me. He has anger issues and became hostile with me saying things like fu** it over and over, despite me telling him to calm down, and that I was sorry for my choice of words. He even said that if I were to kill myself, it would be my fault and that if I told him "I don't know why I do this sh** again, he will tell me to fu** off and not talk to me again. When I became upset over how he was acting toward me, he said that he felt no pity and that I should act like a fu****g adult. He made sniffling, crying noises over the phone in a mocking way. Then he said he wants me to think about what I said and no contact. I know I could have used a better choice of words, but the way he reacted was extreme. I do find that I have to be alert when talking to him, I even have to speak in a certain way (softly), and he has been through many relationships. He argues a lot with his current girlfriend. He doesn't have many friends. He told me that when he was in a rage he punched a hole in the wall and broke a window, among other things. The person I am talking about has been through a lot in his life, but whenever he needed someone to talk to, I was still there and I miss the nice conversations we had. I was sympathetic, but this is not the first time he has given me the silent treatment after getting angry. He has also blocked me on the phone once after I told him I was going to sleep but thanks for the chat, after we were talking for a long time at night. Should I give up on him?

[Skeezyks]

Hello spitzdog: My perspective would be that this is a friend you can do without. Yes, my thought would be that it would be best to let him go...

[winter4me]

Does not sound like a friend.

[Trippin2.0]

You have to speak in a certain tone and use certain choice words, while he can throw the F Bomb at you left right and centre, and still ignores you to boot???


I would cut him loose, he's not treating you fairly or nicely, which are things a real friend does.