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For a while, my husband and I were doing better. Over the summer, he seemed to really be taking responsibility for his actions and I respected that. Now, as his work pressure has increased, he seems to be unraveling again. I feel like he's much more critical; everything is my fault; he needs to make a joke or comment at my expense in order to feel better. Just wandering if anyone could offer their opinions on whether or not this is narcissistic behavior?

He always starts before we go to work. I have a highly stressful job as well, and he knows it - I have told him and he's observed it. However, in the mornings, he's seems to go out of his way to add something more to my already massive plate. It's like he wants to transfer all of his negative energy to me.

He was honest over the summer in saying that he resented me for not spending time with him and focusing on other things, but I tried to explain that I don't want to spend my free time with someone who is trying to upset me. He understood my feelings, apologized and we seemed to be heading in a positive direction. Now, the cycle has started again and it is very exhausting. He's not an effective communicator and since his parents coddled him so much as a child, he lacks coping skills, so his answer to everything is to not answer it. Put it on your plate and let you figure it out. My head spins often because I feel like I am on a roller coaster. So tired...
I have known him over 20 years. In retrospect, he probably showed signs of thus behavior, but they were so isolated, I didn't think twice about it. As we've gotten older, it seems like he is having some kind of mid-life crisis, and all of these traits are surfacing. It can be overwhelming at times. Nonetheless, we have been married for 16 years and it hasn't been all bad like this summer. I fell in love with him again. So confused...